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Basically it's this simple:
At the end of every day, you ask yourself: "Did I talk to the hottest girl I saw today?"
The answer is either YES or NO. That's it!
I've always been intrigued by this challenge, but never took it on before. So, this is a full report of my entire experience. Bew sure to read the whole thing, as I go through ups and downs. In the end, I learned a lot and since that is really my goal, I give day one an A+
First impression: stressful as hell. When the day began, I really didn't like this challenge. I felt like at any moment I might have to run, yell, crash, jump or whatever just to chase a girl. And, I never knew when that moment would come.
That feeling sucked. And, that's not what pickup is about for me. That's not what life is about. I wasn't having fun. But, I decided to withold my judgement until I gave it a fair chance. Perhaps there was something to be learned.
So, I started out the day feeling good. I saw a cute chinese girl outside my second story window. I knew that I'd see a hotter girl, but I wanted a baseline, just in case. So, I decided to run down the stairs and chase her.
Well, as soon as I opened the door, she was walking up the stairs toward me. Holy !#@*, my upstairs neighbor!
I stop her in the hall and find out that she's been living there for THREE years, and I'd never seen her before. (actually, I think I might have glimpsed her in passing). She was fun, but really shy and wanted to keep walking. So, I let her go, but I'll probably see her again.
I decided to continue my trajectory down the stairs just for good measure. And, down the sidewalk I saw another girl. Black hair dressed all in dark denim. All I could really see was the ass, and it was swaggering nicely.
"Was she hotter?" I had no clue! The stress hit again. Do I run on the question mark of "maybe she's hotter?" or do I just let her go? Well, I figure I have to find out, so I chase her down and tap her on the arm and spin her around and tell her she's cute.
She was Italian or something (strong accent). Not really that hot after all, but probably equal to the other girl. Then this feeling creeps up on me: this irritation with having to judge women.
I've always hated judging things, especially women. I feel like apples and oranges. How could I compare a shy chinese girl with a sassy italian girl. Who's hotter? lord, don't make me decide!
Do I (god forbid) have to rate them?
Ok, I give them both "sevens". I don't like saying it, but I found no other way to make this "hottness" thing work.
So, does that mean I still have to hit on "sevens" all day? Or do I only have to hit on "eights" for the rest of the day? or do I have to go for 7.5s? Or do I have to go for 6.5's that may actually be 7.5s when I get up close and see them clearly? Or maybe I'm crazy and actually they are 8s (I have pretty high standards)? Maybe a girl that is a 7 to me is a 10 to some other guy? Is it my scale or social norm scale?
Oh, they don't call it a challenge for nothing!
When I return to my house, I take a deep breath (a lot of running). I appreciate some of the benefits, so far:
- I found out that I have a cute neighbor, and I talked with her. And intend to talk with her more.
- I got excercise running down the street.
- I met two cute women that I never would've met otherwise.
- I felt powerful for going after what I want.
Do I really have 27 more days of this? !#@*!
So, time passes, and I had to drive across town for some errands.
As I'm driving in the car. I give Dan M a call. I tell him that it's majorly stressful driving in a car! I always see girls that are 7+ while driving in a car, will I have to stop at any minute? Yikes!
As I'm telling him, I see a cute Phillipino type girl getting into her parked car. She's cute! !#@*! Cute enough? !#@*... don't know. As cute? Yes.
Maybe she's an equal, maybe she was two tenths hotter?
I decided to keep driving. She didn't seem hot enough to pull crazy car moves for. And, as I look in front of me there is a stopped car. SLAM on the brakes... wow... narrowly avoided an accident! Oh, this sucks.
Alright, the rest of the drive goes well, and I make it out to the Castro. Mostly cute dudes here, but I know that this is where I'll see the hottest girls today, since gay guys attract hot women - unwritten law.
I go into Crossroads Trading Co. to sell some clothes. Quick scan... hotties?
Well, just more of the same. More girls that are on par with the two I've already hit on. At this point, I've decided to change my mission. This is the only way I'll survive. My new question is:
Did I see any girl hotter than the hottest girl I hit on today?
And, so far the answer is no, so I'm doing fine.
But, one of the staff at the store is perhaps equally cute, so I flirt for good measure.
And, there is this cute asian girl. She's actually perhaps a 6.8 (if we're doing the scale thing still). But, god damn, she's wearing this skirt that makes her ass look so !#@* juicy. She's got this cute style and a happy look on her face that shows a deep inner cool.
!#@* the mission, I like this girl. I approach her and tell her that she's cute. She lights up, and yes, she is as cute as I described. (does this make her 10 for personality? !#@* I hate this "hottness" !#@*) I'm certainly not pushing myself out of any comfort zone here, but I'm having fun! We talk for a while, and we're digging each other. And, then I leave her briefly to go get my money from the cashier. I tell her "hold that thought"
I walk up to the cashier, and I'm about to get my money, when it happens:
"Yes, that girl was DEFINITELY hotter than any girl I've seen today!" I think to myself as I look out the front door and see a major hottie walking down the sidewalk with her MOM!
"!#@*, !#@*... gotta do it! !#@*... gotta go! think quick! Act, Daniel! Act! Go!!!!!"
I turn to the cashier: "I just saw someone I know, I have to run, I'll be right back!" The cashier is some spacey SF girl and she just says "uhhhyeaa" And I'm off. The cashier and the asian shopper both watch me run out the front door. I have to run to catch up to her, but there she is still walking with her mom. Yes... I said mom. Time to turn on the charm!
Mom gets caught looking in a store window. Both of them are distracted, so I have to open with a powerful: "Hey, excuse me."
I get their attention.
"I need to talk to you for a second. ... Are you mother/ daughter?"
"Yes"
(to mom) "Wow. You know, I stopped you because I thought your daughter was so beautiful, and I had to meet her."
(turn to hottie) "Nice to meet you." (hand shake)
The girl seems a little flattered, but mostly surprised. Mom doesn't know what's going on, and I found out later that she didn't speak a word of english. lol.... she didn't understand any of it! But, the girl understood. And I keep talking. Basic, normal small talk. "Do you live around here? How long have you lived here?" I'm just trying to keep the conversation moving.
They are trying to get away and keep walking down the sidewalk. So, I say, "well you should go. It was nice meeting you. What's your name?" She says her name, and I instantly know that it's a Korean name. I tell them that I lived for 1 year in Korea, and instantly they open up. They stop in their tracks.
oh yeeaah!
Now, I keep flowing with conversation, talk a little about Korea, etc... It turns out she's a ballerina in the Korean National Ballet
(She's not necessarily in this photo, but she could be)
I tell her "We should have a cup of coffee sometime."
My heart is still racing from the jog down the sidewalk.
She says "Yeah!"
I say "Give me your number." (I check my pocket and left my phone in the car... damn unpreparedness!)
She writes her cell number down on her business card and hands it to me. *smile*
I'm still a little thrown by the awkwardness of the situation, and I just want to get the hell out of there. Can't put the guard down while gaming in front of mom.
I give them both warm hand shakes and say goodbye. Looking back, it wasn't the most solid game, because I probably would've stayed in another minute or two and vibed before leaving. It didn't feel like a sure thing.
But, I get back into the store and get my money, and then re-approach the asian cutie for a last goodbye and see if something will come of it.
I tell her my little secret that they bought fake diesel stuff from me that I bought on ebay, and they plan to sell it for more than I bought it for. heh heh... scam artists. She laughs. I say that I have to leave, and without any prompting, she says "let me give you my email adress. I'm not good with phones."
Smile! Whenever a girl suggests swapping contact info before I do, I know it's on! This is just a rule for me. Always. This girl wants it!
So, I'm good to go with her and return to my car. Sheesh... wow.
I'm overwhelmed with a sense of joy for taking on this strange challenge. On this particular day, and on this particular situation, I know that I would NOT have approached that ballerina.
I would've approached the cutie shopper any day. And that was good. But, that push outside my comfort zone led to success that I wouldn't have gotten if I hadn't been doing some kind of pickup challenge.
Thank you guys. Thank you!
I know that the set wasn't perfect game, so when I get back to my car I text right away:
"Hey, nice to meet you and your mom right now. You must teach me Korean sometime. Anyeong - Dan"
about an hour later, she texts back
"Nice meeting you too. Anyeong"
So, our first text is out of the way. Things are looking good.
So, I go back to my new rules for the game and decide to take the rest of the day off. IF I saw another girl that was even hotter. Yes, I would've had to approach. But, mostly I just wanted to relax.
I went to Trader Joe's and did some grocery shopping, and went to Nordstrom Rack as well. There were many cute girls. Some real genuine hotties. And I didn't approach any of them. Perhaps this is cheating, but I've got a life to live. And I can honestly say that none were hotter than my ballerina. (Two or three were perhaps equals to the ballerina, and perhaps 10 that were equal or above the girls from the beginning of the day).
I still hate this rating thing. How to compare? I know this will make me sick, but in the end I learned so much today about myself, and I also pushed myself to do something difficult. I'm sure the next 27 days will be full of more learnings, if I survive.
Reading this all, you might be like "Damn, Daniel takes this !#@* way too seriously." And the truth is that I do. When I give myself a mission, I give it my full attention and obsession. If it's worth doing, it's worth getting the most out of.
Cheers to everyone else who got a "yes" for day one.
-Daniel
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