Grattitude for My Mentors

Recently, I've had people ask me about my own history and how I got into all of this. I've written many posts along the way, but I've never summarized it all in one place. So, step on the time machine with me as we go back through the last four years of my life. It all started January 2004...

I have always been a huge supporter of the pickup community (even through the many times when my friends may not have agreed). I LOVE the fact that men are helping other men to improve their lives. I LOVE the men's culture and the sheer fact that shy guys, nice guys, awkward guys, and all sorts of men are taking action to go after what they want.

My introduction to it all was a David DeAngelo newsletter (which somehow ended up on my computer). It changed my life. Within 2 months, my entire paradigm on women and dating had done a 180. I saw everything in a completely new way, and I felt liberated to begin making up for a lot of lost time.

I then tried out Ross Jeffries' Speed Seduction and began actually applying the techniques with real women. I creeped out a bunch of those women, and I had fun with some others.  I'm grateful for their patience with me.  It was a huge time of personal transformation, and although I wasn't having sex with any of them, I was really inspired, and my confidence began to improve dramatically.

Then, I found a website called fastseduction.com. This was the next big shift. On this discussion forum, the community put emphasis on: "Field Work, Field Work, Field Work." That is, theory wasn't nearly as important as being in the real world, talking to real women!  Some of the posts from a member named TylerDurden were the most inspiring to actually get me out where the women are.

I started reading through the Maniac_High and Tokyo_PUA archives (as they were living in Japan and I was living in Korea at the time). I plowed through those old posts (many of which were inspired by and extensions of Speed Seduction), and continued to find DRAMATIC improvements in my relating with women, my confidence, and my life in general.

I also continued to skim through posts by Juggler, Gunwitch, TylerDurden, MrNYC4U, Toecutter and some of the other fastseduction posters. ALL of which I loved. I ATE it up.

That discussion board may sound creepy to outsiders of the community, but for me, it gave me a new perspective, solid support, and best of all it was free.

When I started really applying the "Field Work" mentality, I started seeing results.  It should be obvious... the work you do to challenge your comfort zone with real life encounters will be the best learning experiences.

Up to this point, I hadn't had sex in a year and a half.  Then, within 5 weeks I was dating 6 women!

Who's In Your Tribe?

I've always enjoyed taking a look at social dynamics from a tribal point of view. 6.6 Billion People on one planet. One really big tribe?

I walk into a bar. Who are these people? Who are they sitting in their little groups, drinking their spirits, claiming their territory?

Is it a tribal gathering at the local watering hole? In fact, it often seems much different.

I remember when I first stepped foot into a bar, it looked much different. It looked like one big tribe that I wasn't a part of. I saw it as one group of people, and I was outside of it. There were the tribal leaders who looked intimidating, the hot fertile women of the tribe (who also looked intimidating), and a certain culture of the tribe - which I didn't understand.

As I grew more comfortable and really began to look around, I saw it differently again. I began to see a meeting of the tribes. Each tribe stakes territory in one area of the bar. Sometimes a tribe will find out that they know someone from another tribe, and the two will merge together. Sometimes the leader of one tribe will fight the leader of another.

And, then there were the rebels. The ones who look beyond the tribal boundaries and would talk to anyone. Daring and bold, they sought out to merge the tribes (or maybe simply to steal women from the tribe of another)

But, I continued to grow, and I moved past even this. In fact, I ended up in much the same place as where I started. I began to see it once again as a single tribe.

My First DJ Gig!

You may remember a while back, I put up a post about our new turntables.

Well, I knew nothing about DJ-ing at the time. And, in just about 6 months, I'm now a professional DJ *pat on back*.

Yes, I got my first gig. I was nervous like a little school girl. The truth is that I actually don't know anything about DJing, I just like music a lot and I like playing it. I wasn't the best ever, but I had a lot of fun, and everyone seemed to like it. They were dancing and smiling and complimenting me. And, the woman who set it up asked me to do it again sometime. Sweet!

What was the coolest thing though is how I didn't even have to work at it to get a gig. In fact, I didn't even want to do it. But, it fell in my lap.When a friend of a  friend asked for a DJ suggestion, it came around to me.

Women Love It! - Read What She Says...

When I went to Australia last year, I met this really cute girl named Hitomi. We hit it off and when I returned to Australia a few months later, she hung out with me and the PickUp 101 crew while we enjoyed Melbourne. I even invited her to our 2 hour intro seminar, and what was really awesome is that she actually learned something from my seminar. It actually helped her build confidence! I thought that was pretty cool, so I asked her to write about her experience to share with all of you.  Hopefully it gives you an example of a woman's perspective on meeting a guy. (English isn't her first language, so I really appreciate that she wrote so much). Enjoy!

"I had a strange experience that I went to the PickUp 101 seminar which was about attracting women with Senior Instructor Daniel Johnson. I met Daniel in Melbourne and I’m going to write my story of meeting him and what I saw at the seminar.

Continuing to Grow: "Burning Karma"

PickUp Chicks and Find Your Deeper Purpose.

I just started reading David Deida's The Way Of The Superior Man (I'm only on page 20). I hope to put up a full review here at some point.

Anyway, one of his ideas seemed very pertinent to my last post. He talked about it as "burning through karma".

Basically, what he's talking about is moving from one goal to the next in a constant movement toward your life's deepest purpose. However, sometimes we are sidetracked by our "karma" and get caught up in lesser purposes. You may find some parallels in your quest for women.

Are You Playing Games?

What is "Game"? Are you in the game? Is the game playing you?

I met a cute girl recently who took the time to check out my blog. She had some interesting comments to share about her experience with "game", and I wanted to share them with you all. (Remember, this is coming from a woman who has never seen a workshop or never heard about any of this. It's just her experience, being a single woman).

She writes...

A Healthy Fresh Start

I Quit Smoking!

... And I'm starting fresh. During the prototype Art Of Wealth And Abundance, one of the kick-ass activities we did was a vision board:
- Go out, buy some magazines with images representing what you want. Go crazy and buy whatever catches your eye. Then, get a poster board, glue stick and scissors.

- Take it all home and let your inner child delight.

I put together a vision board today to represent my current goals. A health fresh start. After allowing myself to be consumed with stress over the last few months, I neglected my health and started smoking regularly. I realized it was time for a change. Some people didn't even know that I smoked. I wasn't big on it. More on-and-off. But, now it's official. If you see me smoking, slap me!

But, you wont see me smoking. I'm putting a major priority on my health for the next few months. Not just physical, but mental. Keep my mind at peace, and my body feeling good.

And, it probably doesn't need to be said, but the women will love me for it! Women love a guy who has his attention on anything meaningful. No matter what it is. But, a guy who is in good physical shape means lots of good things... (better sex, just for a start).

Spring is coming, and as we all pull out of the dark introspective times of winter there's nothing better than a little spring cleaning and a fresh start.

Avoiding Questions and Changing the Subject

What?
You want me to write what?
Anyway, the other day I was riding my bike across San Francisco. You ever notice how the sun just shines so perfectly through the clouds? Just touching the biggest buildings....

Huh?

Oh yeah... ok fine. I'll answer your question.

Changing the subject and avoiding questions. One of the most fun and enjoyable activities (and oh so sneaky...) The master of conversation will no doubt use this skill quite frequently. And as a man, it's your job to direct a conversation. You decide where that river flows, so you're going to have to know how to change it's direction. We're talking about Jedi convo-skills here.

Of course, there's an infinite number of ways to change the subject. Jumping in front of a bus and getting squashed to a pulp would be one way. Or, the old fake injury might get the same results with a little less pain. Faking insanity might work too: "Mommy!!! Why Didn't You Love Me?!!!"

Let's take a look at one particular method which, when executed correctly, will never fail to bring a smile to your face and your inquisitor's. I'm talking about Banter! If you haven't checked it out already, the basics of banter are covered on the Playful Banter CD in PickUp 101's Surefire Attraction Secrets So, assuming you have the foundations down, we'll proceed.

Here's rule one: