G.O.t.D. - Day 25 - Saturn Returns

To start it off, I'm 28 years old right now. While lying in bed the other morning, I remembered back to my astrology days and was reminded that 28 is the year of my saturn return.

The Sun goes around the Earth every year (that's called our birthday). Saturn does the same thing every 28 years (it's like our saturn-day)

Saturn is the planet of hard work, responsibility, and authority. At age 28, we are directed to reclaim authority over our life and get real. Saturn begs the question: "who's in charge here?"

So, it wasn't a coincidence that I've been feeling so overworked lately. It's no coincidence that I'm inspired to take responsibility for my life and some of the nagging dragging issues.

Women are fun, but it's time to get real.

So, it took some time and some frustration (another quality of Saturn). But, now I'm finally motivated.

I actually told myself that I wasn't allowed to date any new girls until I finish my current goals (not the g.o.t.d. goal... that wasn't my goal, that was just a fun idea). So, that's some motivation for me.

Now, I see hot girls, and I think about hot girls, and I think about the girl of the day mission and I think about all the other instructors and students who are going out and I think "Fuck! I'm sitting around working! This sucks!" And, then I get super motivated.

I'm taking charge. I've got a dentist appointment this Saturday. I'm handling a bunch of other stuff too.

In a couple more weeks, I'm gonna have my life so tight. And then, I'm going on a rampage. I'm gonna hit on every girl in a 5 mile radius. It'll kick ass.


So, for girl-of-the-day. I stopped. Perhaps I'll pick it up again when it fits better into my lifestyle. I believe I did one day since my last post. It was a cute girl, and I yelled at her out a car window. She didn't stop.

I've been talking with some cute girls still, but the truth is that I don't really think about the "hottest girl I saw today" anymore. It's not worth my time. Maybe I did it, maybe I didn't.

Keep posted, because as soon as I get this stuff done, I'm gonna be back in action, big time.

:)

Costumes For The Sexy Man

--- In ebss@yahoogroups.com, Westwind2 wrote:

" Hmmm. I was just invited to a very cute blonde's birthday party Saturday night. It's a costume party. I haven't done the costume thing in years. Any suggestions of what might truly befit a PUA for the occasion? Any suggestions appreciated... Thanks in advance"


Great question as my favorite holiday season approaches... Halloween! And every year I see the same thing. Girls get it. Guys don't. Girls dress sexy. Guys dress like idiots.

Here's the fundamental key that all women get:

Costume = excuse to dress sexy.

It works both ways. Men and women.

Now, really a costume is an excuse to dress any way you want. And, if you want to do star treck or war craft, be my guest. But for chris' sake everybody loves sex. Get into it!

The "theme" of the costume isn't really important. A girl could be sexy secretary, sexy accountant, sexy banana, or the more popular sexy school girl, sexy kitten, sexy devil, etc...

Guys don't care.

Same is true for guys. Whatever you want, make sure it makes you look sexy. Make sure it is flattering.

Almost any outfit can be transformed in this way. For example, you could be a sexy devil, or a cartoon devil, or a scary devil.

So, what makes a costume sexy?

First take a moment to think about what makes men sexy. It's definitely not big boobs and a nice ass. (although a nice ass won't hurt). It's not money and fame. It's confidence, strength, power, etc... the list goes on too long for this post, but you know the deal.

What expresses these qualities?


- The Sex Symbol

An easy way to get sexy is to tap into already popular sex symbols. This year, I'm inspired by Johnny Depp ala Pirates 2. He's a bit dirty, but you know the ladies still love him. Take any sex symbol through history, however. James Dean, Gene Simmons, Brad Pitt, Cassanova.

The other angle is to go generic and just hit some powerful male archetypes: rockstar, womanizer, athlete, millionaire, criminal, etc...

Last year, I did a mix. I was going for a pimp/rockstar, and people ended up telling me that I was Kid Rock. OK. (that demonstrates another rule. Whatever happens with the costume, go with it. Don't try to explain your outfit.)

I've given a few of the obvious examples, but really there's no limit. How about a schoolboy who smokes cigarettes in the bathroom? That's sexy. How about a egyptian high priest of sexual spirituality? That's sexy. How about free love Hippie (who showers)? That could be sexy. Get creative with it.


- Own it, don't mock it.

Whatever you dress as, do it for real. As with everything else, it's not so much what you do, but HOW you do it. Don't do the "cartoon" version of a costume. Don't do the cheap $12.99 walgreens version - Inexpensive is ok, but cheap isn't.

Now, cartoony isn't necessarily all bad, if cute. Perhaps you are going for the "innocent boy who doesn't want to be corrupted" look. It's ok to go cute if you're going 100% cute. Examples of this are dressing as a school boy, a baby, a cute animal, a virgin, a teddy bear, etc... You can play up the cute angle for sure and get a lot of girls wanting to "play"

But, my point here is not to do the caricature of a sexy man. I'll tell you what I mean with an example:

Last year, I told you I was dressed as a pimp/rockstar. I walked into Suite 181 only to find at least a dozen guys dressed as pimps. They looked like idiots. They bought crazy wierd neon pimp suits online and looked completely incongruent (http://www.frankelcostume.com/pimp-suits.php). I just had a nice fur coat, no shirt, and a big belt that said in rhinestones "PIMP". I was the real deal.

One of the first comments I got when I walked in to the club was from a hottie: "You look way too comfortable like that. Do you dress like this all the time?"

That's what I mean by owning it.

Cartoon viking helmet, fake muscles, joke costumes (you know the ones that have a big arrow pointing to your cock and some joke about "pull this lever" or some shit.) Don't do it.

Also, make sure the stuff fits and is flattering for your body. Trust me, girls are paying attention to this. They don't just buy any costume and throw it on. They're working their strong points.


- The Look

There are certain characteristics that you could add to any costume and make it sexier.

Eye liner or other make up: Give your costume that extra edge of mystery. Good for rockstars, pirates, naughty school boys, etc...

Naked Skin: Use this wisely. If you have a good body, you want to show it off. Be careful not to overdo it and look like the man-slut, but a little glimpse of skin will have the ladies going for feelsky's left and right.

Tactile fabrics: Yes, girls want to touch. Leather, suede, fur, feathers, velvet, etc... (Plastic is generally bad. Nobody likes to touch plastic.)

Toys: Handcuffs for the police officer, whips for the cowboy, etc.. etc... something that makes your outfit interactive and playful will surely hook women in.


Above in the end, be practical. If you're gonna get wasted and puke everywhere, don't wear the expensive stuff. If you're gonna go dancing, make sure you can dance in your outfit. If you're gonna go anywhere at all, make sure your costume isn't going to break or fall apart while your out. You may think it's cool because your costume is so awesome, but really it's just a bummer.

Remember, girls want to be with you, not your costume. The costume is a fun way for you to express yourself and bring her into your world. The costume isn't the goal in itself.

A guy who can rock an outrageous costume very confidently and comfortably will get a lot of attention. Ladies will see that you really get it. Have fun with it and make it your own. The best part of dressing up is that you can do ANYTHING. Take advantage.

-Daniel

G.O.t.D - Day Eleven - Could Hollywood Do It?

Well,
Time to tell the truth. This mission so completely doesn't fit my life right now. I was all set to take a month off from gaming girls to work on non-girl related goals.

I wont get into it all here, but I'd like to see a dentist, there's issues surrounding my divorce (still lingering for over seven years now), finances, etc. etc.... I'd just like to get my life in order, so I can look out at the world with nothing on my shoulders and just feel like a Man who is in charge of his world.

On top of that, a beautiful wonderful woman who I was dating for nine months recently moved away. I'm glad that she's getting on with her life, but I also miss her very much.

But, everyone got excited to do a challenge, and I'm a sucker for excitement. See, I've figured something out through all this. Motivation is one of the biggest challenges in this game. Our bodies were never meant to become cooler. We weren't meant to tinker with the social order. But, we do. Because we're men and we like to break the rules.

So, when I see motivation and I see momentum, I jump on it. I see a bunch of guys who are willing to kick my ass to push me beyond my comfort zone, and I know how rare that is. I know that's an opportunity that a guy must take.

Lance said the word challenge. I said fuck yeah!

And, to disclose the whole truth... I'm fuckin' glad I did. It's not the right time in my life right now, but that's ok.

Everyday I learn something new, and that is my measure of success.

What did I learn today?

The hottest girl was walking down the sidewalk with her mom (what's with me and moms?). I saw her out the window. I wasn't going to run after her. I thought about yelling. It didn't seem appropriate.

I thought... limiting belief? hmm... perhaps... "can't yell out a window at a girl with her mom."

And I'll share a little secret here. This is my lithmus test for a limiting belief: Could Hollywood do it?

Could Hollywood make a movie where the hero yells out the window at a hot chick and get's the girl. Yes, Hollywood could make it happen, so I could too.

Next time, perhaps i'll just yell. I'll be the romantic fool.

Today I didn't.

red ex.

6 for 11

G.O.t.D - Day Ten - Keep On Driving

Well,

I'm counting the hottest girl as a cute asian girl walking down the sidewalk near Union Square. I was in the passenger seat of a car on the way to help out with our Learning Annex event.

Dan M. was driving and offered to pull over while I ran after her, but it would've been absurd. That's one hell of a wing for sure, but the honest truth is that I never want to be a guy who has nothing in his life more important than women. And today, I had somewhere to be, so we kept on driving.

I saw another cute girl later who I thought wasn't as cute. She looked kinda chubby. As I walked passed her, she looked better than from a distance, and as I took a second to think, she was gone. I'm not sure if that counts, she probably wasn't as hot, but I'll never really know.

So, I went the rest of the day wondering if I'd see another hottie and get a chance to redeem myself.

I did see one cute girl walking with an older man and an older woman. She didn't look like them, so I couldn't figure out if she was with them. I couldn't figure out if she was super hot either. But, I wanted to make a move after watching the others pass by.

She was on her cell phone, but that didn't matter.

I tapped her on the arm, and she started to back up and freak out. The older couple she was with started to freak out to.

Now, I got a good look at her. She was young. Probably 18 give or take 2 years. She actually wasn't that hot, but cute enough, and I'd already made an ass of myself, so better keep going.

I tell her: "wait. I just saw you and you're kinda cute, so I wanted to meet you."

She's flattered. "Oh, well, I'm on the phone with my boyfriend."

The older couple is looking at me kinda weird, but also with some respect.

"Well, tell him that he's got a very cute girlfriend."

"Oh, thank you." she says.

Then, I walked off. It was kinda awkward and I did it anyway, and made everyone smile. A success in my book. I give myself a big inner smile style green check. But, for the record, technically I get a red ex.

-Day Ten: No

G.O.t.D - Day seven/eight/nine - Resting Up

Day Seven,

I didn't go out I didn't even leave the house all day. Then, at 1 AM I went and took a walk down to Columbus Ave. I really was hoping that I didn't see a hottie, because I really wasn't in the mood. But, I was walking anyway. I didn't see any girls, so I didn't approach. Big Red X for not even seeing a hot chick.

I did learn a couple things though. #1 I learned that there are in fact days that I don't leave the house. #2 No one hangs out in North Beach at 1AM on a Monday night.

Day Eight,

I pretty much decided not to play the game that day. I was out with my family for my sister's birthday. It was a good day.

I figured I'd rest up and build momentum to get back into the challenge. Whenever I do a challenge, I find myself having bursts of enthusiasm and success followed by lulls of rest and recovery. I was in the valley, no biggie.

Day Nine,

Today, I wanted to get back in it, but again I was occupied with work all day. Super stressed trying to keep this pickup machine running. All for the good.

At 8PM, I decided that I really had to get back in the challenge and it wasn't gonna be that hard. I put on my shoes and walked to Walgreens. um.... a couple "give me a couple beers and I'll do her" chicks. They weren't hot, but maybe so-so. I didn't bother. No point in hitting on the hottest girl if she's not even hot.

I walked down to the corner and saw two silhouettes. Nice asses, nice cuves. That's my set! They were about to cross the street so I had to pick up my pace.

I opened with "where's a good place to get ice cream?" (it was cold and rainy - winter's here)

Then, I didn't listen to a word they said but just bantered relentlessly. They laughed. Mission accomplished. The green man flashed and they walked away.

I did my job, make not one, but two cute girls smile. Big green check.

6 for 9

19 days left

G.O.t.D - Day five/six - Exhausted

This challenge is getting tiresome. But there are lessons to be learned yet.

Saturday night, I was out with my girlfriend. We went to Medjool to help with the workshop. I honestly look back on the night and I don't remember who the hottest girl was. I remember talking to some hot girls, and I also remember some hot girls that I didn't talk to. - a bunch actually.

The hotties that I didn't talk to were in awkward situations, and for the sake of my relationship with my girlfriend, it seemed fully inappropriate to break our conversation dead and go chase a girl down on the sidewalk. Just plain idiotic, childish and rude. So, I didn't do it.

I give my self a big red X for Saturday.

Sunday, I wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone. Really just wanted some time to myself to relax. I was walking down the sidewalk, expecting that I would be getting another red X.... when I saw the hottest Japanese girl. She had these tight boots going up her calves, and then pants that had a bunch of frilly stuff right above the boots. I nice fitted leather jacket, jet black hair, and the smoothest skin.

She actually made it easy on me. I really had no choice.

I walked past her on the sidewalk and then walked about 20 more feet saying "!#@*! !#@*! !#@*!!!" to myself. Then, I turned around, ran up the hill and stopped her.

She was clearly not from here and didn't speak much English. She freaked out and completely ignored me, as if I was a glass window. Lol...

I turned to the other two people on the sidewalk who were watching, and I said "wow, she's totally ignoring me. That's unbelievable."

They smiled at me.

Then, I wished her well and walked away. At least I made someone smile. And, I have to wonder if I'd even really want to date someone who is so scared of a harmless person on a sidewalk.

Anyway, I did it.

Day 6: big green check.