Who's In Your Tribe?

I've always enjoyed taking a look at social dynamics from a tribal point of view. 6.6 Billion People on one planet. One really big tribe?

I walk into a bar. Who are these people? Who are they sitting in their little groups, drinking their spirits, claiming their territory?

Is it a tribal gathering at the local watering hole? In fact, it often seems much different.

I remember when I first stepped foot into a bar, it looked much different. It looked like one big tribe that I wasn't a part of. I saw it as one group of people, and I was outside of it. There were the tribal leaders who looked intimidating, the hot fertile women of the tribe (who also looked intimidating), and a certain culture of the tribe - which I didn't understand.

As I grew more comfortable and really began to look around, I saw it differently again. I began to see a meeting of the tribes. Each tribe stakes territory in one area of the bar. Sometimes a tribe will find out that they know someone from another tribe, and the two will merge together. Sometimes the leader of one tribe will fight the leader of another.

And, then there were the rebels. The ones who look beyond the tribal boundaries and would talk to anyone. Daring and bold, they sought out to merge the tribes (or maybe simply to steal women from the tribe of another)

But, I continued to grow, and I moved past even this. In fact, I ended up in much the same place as where I started. I began to see it once again as a single tribe.

The Host with the Most

I heard one of you out there in cyberspace thought maybe I was dead.

Yeah, it's true, I haven't been posting lately. It's too bad too because I've been up to all sorts of crazy adventures. Perhaps I should get back to it again. I've got some amazing insights to share.

For now, just watch this cool video of me. I loved it when I saw it. They did an awesome job editing it and actually made me look funny. Regis Philbin watch out!

I love you guys!

-Daniel

She's Already Gone...

Talking with a friend recently, he told me about reading "A Book of Five Rings". He said it's written by some samurai who won a whole lot of sword fights or something. It sounds cool. I want to read it. For now, I'll just comment on what my friend told me.

Apparently, this samurai would go into every battle believing "I'm already dead."

Thus, he was completely detached from outcome. Completely unattached to getting anything or winning anything. He knew that death was inevitable eventually, and so he fought with no fear of death.

It reminded me of a poster my step mom has in her kitchen. She hangs it behind her favorite wine glasses, and it reads:
"I know this glass is already broken, so I enjoy it incredibly.'" (an old Buddhist quote)

So, what am I saying? Samurai? Buddhists?

Well, try this out...

"I know this woman is already gone from my life, so I enjoy her incredibly."

I know I'm already dead.

When you meet a woman who turns you on. Feel your desire. Feel the passion. Feel your love for women and especially your love for that special one that really catches your eye. And feel that she is already gone, and you have nothing to hold onto. All you have is the moment.  Enjoy it.

That's what I've been meditating on lately, so I thought I'd share.

The "Wake Up!" of Break Ups

I just came across a question on the PickUp Lounge asking about the best way to break up with a woman. It's a question I've heard a lot, but it also seems to get downplayed. Guys are more preoccupied with getting women in bed, than what to do next.

Here is a summary of my thoughts:

If a relationship is good, then for most people the breakup will be equally painful. As my buddy Hristiyan has put it, "love and pain are inseparable."

You don't need to suffer the emotions, you don't need to be a victim of drama. But, you also don't want to fall into the typically male trap of trying to shut down your emotions and be lifeless inside.  For most people, breaking up will always bring up emotions, some of which you may not want to deal with.

But, perhaps... a breakup is a wonderful opportunity (yes, hear me out)... a wonderful opportunity for both you and her to deal with the reality of life. Part of life is loss and change. Not a moment goes by where we do not face the ever changing nature of life.

If we think of a relationship or a breakup as part of the natural world of change- we could think of it like a hurricane.Emotions swirl like wild winds, while life itself must go on.

Women will naturally have a million emotions come up for them as you are breaking up. At some points they may be furious with you, at some points very seductive, some points almost non-existent and non-communicative, and on and on... They are fully embodying the emotions of the moment. There is nothing wrong with this, and you can appreciate your woman's humanity in this moment.

Letting Go - Earth, Air, Fire, Water

Our Ancestors knew what it took to grow and change and transform yourself in the world. In fact, self transformation is as old as the Pheonix who flew into the Sun. All they had to do was look around to see how nature changed with the cycles of life. Transformation was accepted as part of being alive.

A few days ago, I got together with some friends for an old ritual at Ocean Beach. It was time for letting go and moving on.

Four of us met at the cold windy parking lot of Ocean Beach, each with something that we wanted to let go of in our life. The only rule was that if you were going to show up - you had to participate.

My First DJ Gig!

You may remember a while back, I put up a post about our new turntables.

Well, I knew nothing about DJ-ing at the time. And, in just about 6 months, I'm now a professional DJ *pat on back*.

Yes, I got my first gig. I was nervous like a little school girl. The truth is that I actually don't know anything about DJing, I just like music a lot and I like playing it. I wasn't the best ever, but I had a lot of fun, and everyone seemed to like it. They were dancing and smiling and complimenting me. And, the woman who set it up asked me to do it again sometime. Sweet!

What was the coolest thing though is how I didn't even have to work at it to get a gig. In fact, I didn't even want to do it. But, it fell in my lap.When a friend of a  friend asked for a DJ suggestion, it came around to me.

Women Love It! - Read What She Says...

When I went to Australia last year, I met this really cute girl named Hitomi. We hit it off and when I returned to Australia a few months later, she hung out with me and the PickUp 101 crew while we enjoyed Melbourne. I even invited her to our 2 hour intro seminar, and what was really awesome is that she actually learned something from my seminar. It actually helped her build confidence! I thought that was pretty cool, so I asked her to write about her experience to share with all of you.  Hopefully it gives you an example of a woman's perspective on meeting a guy. (English isn't her first language, so I really appreciate that she wrote so much). Enjoy!

"I had a strange experience that I went to the PickUp 101 seminar which was about attracting women with Senior Instructor Daniel Johnson. I met Daniel in Melbourne and I’m going to write my story of meeting him and what I saw at the seminar.

Continuing to Grow: "Burning Karma"

PickUp Chicks and Find Your Deeper Purpose.

I just started reading David Deida's The Way Of The Superior Man (I'm only on page 20). I hope to put up a full review here at some point.

Anyway, one of his ideas seemed very pertinent to my last post. He talked about it as "burning through karma".

Basically, what he's talking about is moving from one goal to the next in a constant movement toward your life's deepest purpose. However, sometimes we are sidetracked by our "karma" and get caught up in lesser purposes. You may find some parallels in your quest for women.

Are You Playing Games?

What is "Game"? Are you in the game? Is the game playing you?

I met a cute girl recently who took the time to check out my blog. She had some interesting comments to share about her experience with "game", and I wanted to share them with you all. (Remember, this is coming from a woman who has never seen a workshop or never heard about any of this. It's just her experience, being a single woman).

She writes...

Tale of Romance - He Said / She Said

Here's a spicy story from last March. Alexandra and I wrote it together about a week after meeting, but I've been waiting to post it. Finally, here it is...

DANIEL:
Ever since Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, it’s been every man’s dream of finding romance in Seattle (ok, well maybe kinda). But when I signed up to lead the Art of Rapport Workshop there, I certainly hoped to give that fiction tale a run for its money. I aimed to create some non-fiction adventures of my own.

As the workshop approached, everything fell into place. Instructors, Workshop participants, hotel rooms, and yes… Supergirls. There was one girl in particular who was planning to sit through the entire workshop. She was so amazed by what we do and how we do it, that she wanted to actually observe the entire process. When she asked to attend, it sounded cool, so I sent her the info. But soon after our email exchange, I promptly forgot that we’d even invited her.

ALEXANDRA:
Thursday night: I was very stressed. My boyfriend of a year and a half tells me that if I attend the Pickup 101 Art Of Rapport class over the weekend, our relationship is OVER! He was begging me not to go. Strange premonition on his part? It shows - don’t focus on things that you don’t want to happen. But here is the truth. This on and off relationship had been on shaky ground for a long time, and it was time for me to move on. I stood there in front of him and thought about it... pickup class or boyfriend? Without hesitation I said, “Sorry, I have too much of life to live and this is something I can’t miss.” I had helped out at the Seattle Art of Attraction a few months earlier, and my desire to go back for a second time was so strong that nothing could have stopped me. The classes are too cool! No turning back now.

Getting Girls at the Library - Sexy and Smart!

If you like smart ladies, I want to tell you how to master one of the toughest, but most fruitful environments for meeting nerdy girls.  For me, there's nothing quite like the downtown San Francisco Public Library. A three-story building full of brilliantly literate hotties. Well, usually there's only one or two hotties in the whole place, but I'm not trying to be greedy here. And... did I mention? They're probably smart.

So, whenever I find myself in the City Hall area, I stop by the Library, and this day was no different.

I walk in.

1st floor - nothing

2nd floor - hmm.... a couple of 18 yr olds. No, no... too young.

Going up the stairs to floor 3 - yes. There she is.

Find Your Flow - Skyrocket Your Results!

What if learning skills with women could be easy and fun all the time? What if everyday your game improved in ways that you could hardly even imagine? What if every time you talked to a girl, you absolutely knew that you were doing better than you'd ever done before?

That's the way it should be, right? We all know that we deserve results and we deserve more satisfaction. So, the path to abundance should be an enjoyable one that simply and smoothly Flows.

Lately, one of my housemates is reading the book "Flow." I never have enough time to really read books for myself, but I really enjoy learning the material second hand. Almost everyday he'll read a little of the book and give me an update and his latest learnings. It's great to have friends like that in your life!

So, before I even went out today, I had a really good chat with my housemate about the book. And, I hit some great realizations about how and when my game improves and how it stagnates.

We all know what the flow state is. Those moments in life where time seems to stand still. Results come to you effortlessly and easily. And, you can actually feel that you're in exactly the right place at exactly the right time.

When we're in the flow state, everything works out better. We'll actually see hotter women. The women we talk to will be in better moods and more receptive to us. The women coming into our life will be more open to us, and they will come more often. We may not even know what we're doing to attract them. All we will know is that they are there. And, above all, it feels great!

The Old Dude's Got Game

If you haven't seen it, it's time to take a look around. The old guy with the fine young thing. Or maybe the older woman her young piece of meat. What does age matter, really?

Last night I went out on the town and ended up talking for over an hour with a woman 6 years older than me. She was cute, abs of steel, pretty face. I was all for it. Her friends were teasing her for talking to me (I look young for my age, so I guess they thouhgt it was more like 12 years difference). Fuck it. She didn't care. She told me herself: "age doesn't matter." And, of course, you know she's gonna be.. um... experienced in bed.

But, it's true. How old do you feel in your heart? How old do you act? Our bodies are one thing, but only that. There is much more to a person than his body. And, luckily for men, our bodies are even less important.

So, the night progressed, and eventually I met him. A "natural" if you will. A man who claims he could pickup any girl in the bar, and who prides himself on not wanting the sex. "It's all about playing the game. Not getting laid." For him, I believe it's true.

Are You Afraid Of This?

Have You Given The Dreaded "Creepy Touch?"

If you've even come close, you probably never want to do it again.


Well, I know I'm late on current events, but I saw this photo again recently and knew that I had to comment. This is perhaps the most publicized "creepy touch" in all of history.

Whatever you may think of George Bush, I think there is a lot that we can learn from him (wait, wait... hear me out.) With all of Bush's *cough* shortcomings... somehow he became President of the United States. Wow. 

Humility VS. Confidence

Personally, I always fell on the side of Humility. In fact, in the past, I could easily have been accused of being overly humble (or in other words, a "pussy").

And recently, I've actually been surprised to hear how girls think that I "think I'm the shit." Actually, there was one girl in Australia who was actually convinced that I was too arrogant for her. She gave me so much shit and even told me, "You're not as cool as you think you are."

But, what is going on here. Let's take a look.

Recently, I took a look at Donovan's Seduction Chronicles. He did a review for our new product: Physical Confidence. In the review, he refers to me as "underrated."

Of course, I was flattered, and I appreciated Donovan's kind sentiments.

While at the same time, it got me thinking. What does it mean to be "underrated?"

The way that I was raised by my parents, underrated was good. It mean that you undercharge and over-deliver. And that's supposed to be a good thing. I always was happy with the fact that I was really giving people the best value I could give.

But, then I started to realize how very many people there are in the world who overcharge and under-deliver. And, sadly enough... they are the ones making most of the money and getting most of the women. (I'd point out our president Bush as one example.)

So, finally I decided to take a look at all this. What was it that made people want to give them so much money? What was it that made women like them?

Well.. the answer is... Confidence!

What Would Oprah Do?

"For everyone of us that succeeds, it's because there's somebody there to show you the way out."

Oprah Winfrey - Net worth over $1 Billion.

Ok, you guys are gonna think I've gone super sissy on you now. Time for another one of my little secrets to be revealed: I love Oprah!

If you don't know why, you've probably never really given her a chance. And probably, because there is a scourge of crappy woman talk show hosts on TV. The View. Martha Stewart. Actually... they all suck. They talk about stuff that doesn't matter, they have annoying whiny voices, and they don't do anything useful with themselves. In fact, I'll just throw in the whole majority of mainstream television. I don't have a TV, and if you do, I recommend trashing it:

Most of the crap advice out there makes for worse relationships and often tries to turn men into women. Don't let Rosie O'Donnell cut your balls off - That's all I'm saying.


But, if you tune into Oprah, when she's not talking about beauty tips and Hollywood drama. She's actually got a message.

I remember about 5 years ago when she started something that she called "Lifestyle Makeovers." It was genius. She took a woman's natural desire for something fun and cool: a makeover. And, she turned that desire inward to make a woman really improve herself, and not just her looks. Wow. Revolutionary. In that way, she took something void of content and completely shallow (the makeover) and transformed it into something useful and real. And at the same time she transformed something spacey and weird (self-improvement) And she made it fun.

So what would Oprah do, if she was a hopelessly lonely and frustrated man wanting the cute warm companionship of a woman? She'd sure as hell get off her ass and do something about it.

When you're looking for advice in the world, don't limit yourself. There's no one place to find all your answers in life, but if you find your own heros and learn what you can from them you'll find your path in life opening up before you. Your life will be filled with more purpose and inspiration. Never be too arrogant that you lose track of the positive influences in your life.

A Healthy Fresh Start

I Quit Smoking!

... And I'm starting fresh. During the prototype Art Of Wealth And Abundance, one of the kick-ass activities we did was a vision board:
- Go out, buy some magazines with images representing what you want. Go crazy and buy whatever catches your eye. Then, get a poster board, glue stick and scissors.

- Take it all home and let your inner child delight.

I put together a vision board today to represent my current goals. A health fresh start. After allowing myself to be consumed with stress over the last few months, I neglected my health and started smoking regularly. I realized it was time for a change. Some people didn't even know that I smoked. I wasn't big on it. More on-and-off. But, now it's official. If you see me smoking, slap me!

But, you wont see me smoking. I'm putting a major priority on my health for the next few months. Not just physical, but mental. Keep my mind at peace, and my body feeling good.

And, it probably doesn't need to be said, but the women will love me for it! Women love a guy who has his attention on anything meaningful. No matter what it is. But, a guy who is in good physical shape means lots of good things... (better sex, just for a start).

Spring is coming, and as we all pull out of the dark introspective times of winter there's nothing better than a little spring cleaning and a fresh start.

One Taste Of The Devine (Video)

Here's the latest video from our Project San Francisco Meetings With Masters series. I was in Australia, so I missed it. But, as soon as I got home, I watched the tapes and it was very cool. These women tell it like it is.

I think a lot of the impact was lost in the tapes, as the best thing these women would do is just be totally blunt (and almost bitchy) and call guys out on their bullshit.

I chose this clip because it was one of the few clips where they were speaking normal talk instead of with their own lingo. Personally, I love words and I love creative use of language, but I also like easy smooth natural communication.

Anyway, they give some blunt advice here about the woman's perspective. In fact, it's advice that we've all heard before, but it's always nice to hear it coming from a woman.

The first part is about persistence. The value of this can't be denied. Women love it when you don't give up.

The second part is about how women like a guy who has other women in his life. So start here and now with whatever woman you talk to next. And, build from there.

Enjoy the clip

Back To San Francisco

I'm a city boy at heart. I love walking the streets of San Francisco and just taking it all in. The concrete, the cars, the people. There's always something going on.

In fact, SF always seems so small when I come back home. It's a little town, but a lot to do. Really, there's nothing like it on the planet. I moved here to be closer to a community of like-minded individuals. Little did I know, I'd be helping create that community. Living at Project San Francisco, hanging out with the PickUp 101 crew... I really feel like I'm part of something awesome.

Our environment affects us in so many ways. If you don't walk out of your front door and smile because you love where you live... then maybe it's time to move. Everyday I leave my house, I see that Trans-America building and I feel good!

Talking With Your Body

I'm supposed to give a talk later today to the Melbourne Lair. They asked me to talk about Body Language - it's the hot topic.

So, what is it about Body Language that seems so powerful, yet so strangly hard to get. Well, for a start, there's the obvious challenge of trying to write or talk about Body Language. It really must be seen and felt to be understood.

And, there's also the fact that Body Language rarely has direct and obvious results. (I've never heard a girl say to a guy "you're body language was just so awesome! I had to date you!") While, on the other hand, I have heard women say "There's just something about the way he walked into the room."

They notice. Women notice your body language. But, they don't know what or why. And, before I started working with our supergirls, I had never heard things like "well, when he moves his shoulders like that, he actually looks sexier."

But, it's true. Women are 100% in tune with your body language. What does your body say? What is it communicating? Is it dripping sexuality? or is it hiding and shrinking away? or is it pretending to be something that it's not?

Although it's a subtle and mysterious art. Everyone can improve. In our workshops, we see instant and dramatic improvement. And, when guys do make changes, all of a sudden there's "just something about them". And, they walk through the world in a new way.

Give A Compliment Today!

Here's a new mission for you. I just gave it to one of my students yesterday in The Art Of Rapport.

One Sincere Compliment Every Day.

It's that simple. All you have to do is appreciate the good things in your life, and when you see something you like... give it a little recognition.

Nice Sunglasses

Great Smile!

You're cute...

It's funny how difficult it is for guys to give a 100% sincere compliment. No bullshit, no need for approval, no need for anything in return.

And, I'm not talking hot girls, either. I don't care who you talk to. Do it to your sister, your boss, your best friend. Just take a second to appreciate something that makes you happy, and give a compliment!

City By The River

At first glance, Melbourne looked a lot like San Francisco. The skyline of downtown had about the same number of skyscrapers. People seemed just as busy.

But, actually, this is a town of almost 4 million people. I haven't really left the city center much, but Melbourne must really sprawl outward into the burbs. What makes this so cool? People everywhere!

Friendly people, and so many of them! Our first day of field work during the Art Of Rapport was a huge success. Women were in true abundance.

Anyone looking for a nice vacation, I highly recommend this town.

Deep Rapport

When's the last time you really opened up to somebody and bared your soul?

Working with guys this weekend in The Art Of Rapport, I'm once again reminded just how challenging it is for men to reveal their emotions. In fact, I'll just say it... it's a bitch. And what's worse is that even when we think we're getting good at it, there's still more to learn.

Let's face it, speaking freely with emotion is a woman's world these days.

It takes a certain strength to dig deep and reveal your vulnerability. But, that strength is what makes it so attractive. It's what women crave from us.

Next time you find yourself talking about an emotional subject (family, friends, life, loss, etc..). Stop and ask yourself if perhaps you could put a little more into it. Just a little more at first. And, with every little bit, we can all become just a little more real.

Tale Of Travels: Welcome To Melbourne

I just arrived in Melbourne after 36 hours of traveling on bus, airplane, and shuttles. But, just as luck would have it, a cute Japanese girl happened to be on my last shuttle into town. Yes, she was very cute. I was happy.

We talked on the bus, and then I invited her to join me for a cup of coffee before she left for the next town where she was staying. She agreed, so we dropped all our stuff off at my hotel room and then went for a drink.

I got a delicious iced coffee with a scoop of Vanilla gelato mixed dropped in. Yummm!

Then, we took some pictures and played around by the waterfront. She seemed very comfortable with my touch, and being close to me. Then, when I went to hold her hand, she kinda freaked, like it was so un-japanese. But, I just played along and made it a sort of game. Eventually, we were holding hands like boyfriend girlfriend.

Then, we walked to a park and sat in the shade (it's freekin' hot here). We rolled around in the grass and did some acro-yoga. Stretch it out.

Then, I brought her in close and went for a kiss. Again, very un-japanese. She wasn't into it at first, but I insisted on pulling her in close again.

Then, we had the most erotic, playful experience of a first kiss. I put my forehead to hers, then kissed her on the cheek. Then, she kissed me on my mine. Then we rubbed noses, and then foreheads, and kept dancing around each other with our lips almost touching, but never actually kissing. It was hot. A total dance of sexual tension. Then, to finish it off, I went in quick and snuck a kiss, and then pulled way back.

Ohhh... it was getting fun now, because she pounced on top of me and pinned me on my back in the grass. And from that point, I could stare up at her big bright eyes with the leaves of the trees behind her head, and the sun peaking through the leaves just a little. She looked so fuckin' beautiful in that moment. Like a little Japanese angel. And in my contentment with that moment, she leaned in and kissed me too.

I had to stop and tell her how beautiful she looked in that moment. Yeah, I wanted to take a photo or do a painting or something.

We went back to my hotel room and played around a little more before I sent her on her way. She's only in town for a couple days, so I may not see her again. Don't know.

No matter what, it was a great welcome to Australia. And, oh yeah... there were a bunch of way hotties out there walking the streets and catching my eye. This adventure isn't done yet.

Tale Of Cuddles: Washington D.C.

You never choose when a sexy fun woman will walk into your life.

Last night I was walking back to the hotel with my boys after a nice dinner in Georgetown. It'd been a long weekend teaching The Art Of Rapport, and I needed nothing more than a good night's sleep.

But, there they were. Two cuties walking down the sidewalk behind us. And, when we all stopped at the crosswalk, I had no choice but to flirt.

I was in a group of 4 guys - two in front of the girls, two behind. So, I decided to play off of the situation.

"Are you part of our group?" I asked, with my sly little smile.
"No."
"Am I part of your group?"
(They smile)
"No."
"Well then, I guess we're strangers. It's nice to meet you."
(smiles all around)

And, we were off. Banter, fun, laughter, good times. Still walking down the snow covered sidewalk. With the cold night wind blowing, we walked fast too.

I suggest the nearby bar - a block from our hotel, and we all agree to visit the local watering hole.

Time passes, adventures ensue, and eventually we end up back at the hotel and fall asleep cuddling (just nice, warm, enjoyable cuddling). A perfect companion for a weary traveler.

What was most amazing, however, was that I was actually on my way home to write a blog post about synchronicity - and meeting the right people at the right time. (post coming soon). But, there she was. Two blocks from my hotel, at the right place and the right time.

Sometimes, it's just magical

Call Your Mom!

I took a nice walk throuh Richmond, VA with my mom. We went and visited the grave of Edgar Allen Poe's Mom. I could imagine him walking around in a graveyard a hundred year ago paying respect to his mom.



My mom's still alive and I absolutely love her. In fact, I had a great time hanging out with her this week. She's helped me through a lot in life, and continues to be a great support for me today.

Of course, not all of us have great relationships with our moms. And, many of us didn't even have a choice about the matter.

But, we do have a choice about how we relate to the women in our life Now. In each and every relationship, we can create something completely new. We can be free from patterns of the past.

What kind of loving relationships do you want to create?

Valentine's Check

Did You Survive Valentine's Day?

Does Your Heart Still Look Like The Diagram On The Left?

I've been super super busy. Didn't even have free time to sit down and write a little message here.

Hey now... don't get jealous!

So, here's a quick update.

I took the Authentic Man Program over the last weekend. It changed my life. More on that later...

My Japanese girlfriend came to visit she's so cute. But, some creepy imposter did some identity theft on me and started sending her emails in my name. Very weird. No time to explain it all now...

As midnight struck and Valentine's Day came around, I found myself in my bed with two girls on each side and a couple on the other end of the bed. (all naked). Definitely there's more details there, but don't know if I'm gonna give you the juicy stuff...

Right now I'm in Richmond VA with my mom. I love my mom! Call your mom, damn it!

As you can see, there's plenty to write about, now I just need some time. I should get some time as I head off to Australia. We're doing another workshop out there... yes, more to come :)

Hope you all are having a good Valentines week as well!

-Daniel

The Key Is In Your Hand

"In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand."

- Jiddu Krishnamurti

Reality Check - Part One

When's the last time you really took a good look at your life and appreciated how far you've come?

It's been a long time? Well then, you're ready for a Reality Check!

During the last Art of Attraction, I was sitting up in front of the room, talking away like I always do. And, in the middle of my talk, it hit me. Look how far I've come! I go out there every weekend, and I talk to groups of guys as an Authority on women. We pack a room with 40 complete strangers, all waiting to hear me talk. And, I don't even think twice. Not a twinge of fear or anxiety.

What?! Let's take a step back for a second. In fact, let's go all the way back to my first concious attempt at public speaking. Thailand. 2003. One room. Seven Thai students. One observer watching my every move. - It was my first time teaching English.

Long before I got into pickup and meeting women, I knew that I had to change my ways. I knew that I had to step up and shatter my social fears.

Tale Of Connection: Sparkle Hat

Old Friends came crawling out of the woodwork last night, as I spent almost the whole night in conversation with people I randomly knew.

And, then as I was walking out the door and about to head home, I saw a cute Japanese girl with a sparkely hat doing sign language. I had to stop and investigate.

She taught me how to say "Beautiful" in sign language. (But, no she wasn't deaf). It all kept reminding me of the movie Babel (highly recommended).

Later on we were trading war stories, and I was telling her about my skateboarding days where I would fly downhill into cross traffic at over 20+ mph, just hoping that the cars would be timed just right.

She told me about riding a 2 person bicycle in Japan while wearing a school-girl miniskirt. And, she fell off the bike and not only was she bruised and scraped, but her skirt flew up and her panties were showing. Scary and sexy at the same time :)

There's something so great about sharing in near death stupidity.

We exchanged many warm hugs, and I was happy while talking with her. She's been living in the US for a few years, so she's just got the slightest hint of a Japanese accent. Very cute.

I invited her over for dinner next Tuesday, and that makes me happy too.

mmmmmm.... *sigh*

From Cold Approach To Reputation

I recently came across this question on the PickUp Lounge. It's a common question that I hear a lot. But something specific stood out to me this time:

"I was wondering if it was safe to make multiple cold approaches in an environment where you kind of belong as a member and where everybody will eventually get to know you to some degree?

I guess what I'm worried about is if I make several cold approaches and the words about my action get around the women members, I will probably be branded as a player and it may seriously damage my reputation."

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Look, here's the unavoidable truth: You will get a reputation no matter what.

The question then is, what kind of reputation do you want?

Prince's Rock Hard Guitar Scares The Country

"We respect other opinions, but it takes quite a leap of the imagination to make a controversy of his performance," spokesman Greg Aiello said. "It's a guitar."

Well, the superbowl came and went while I was out teaching Men to flirt like champions. (Shed a tear for me and my sorrows.) But, of course, in the midst of a great atheletic competition, the country asks the big question: How does all this relate to sex?

No titties popping out of dresses? What a disappointment! How am I gonna teach my children that sex is wrong and breasts are to be feared?!

Oh, I know! I'll make fun of Prince's Schlong! Yes, the artist known for such heart warming pieces as "Gett Off." What better example of why sex is a bad idea!

If you missed the halftime show, Prince's phallus was the site to behold as they projected a silhoutte of his guitar against a screen. The actual truth is that no one really cared. (boo hoo). But, in a world full of sexual repression the media will take what it can get.

Here's today's advice. If Prince's guitar scares you, come visit us out here in ol' San Francisco. - Where we actually believe that maybe just kinda sorta IT'S OK TO LIKE SEX!

In fact, I stand before you today, making the bold statement: I Like Janet Jackson's Breasts! (As for Prince's guitar... well... let's just say I enjoyed teaching my workshop over the weekend.)

Pop Your Cherry!

"The Japan Cherry Boys Association now claims a nationwide membership of 260, all of who have the stated aim of losing their virginity as quickly as possible. But what are they doing about achieving their goal?"


A PickUp friend and once student of mine lives in Tokyo and sent me this article from Japan. It seems too unimaginable to be true. But, then again, it is Japan.

Reading it, I almost spit milk out my nose when I read this bit:
"'First and foremost, we study. To make sure we have an anatomical background of women, we all draw pictures of female genitalia and critique them', Watanabe tells the women's weekly. 'We had one guy who just drew a straight line and said, 'I'm finished.' That's how little we all know. It's really pathetic.'"

My big question is how on earth a virgin man would ever think that hanging out with other virgins is going to help his pursuit? This article is a bizarre caricature of any kind of boy's club we'd have in America. But the honest truth is that the people we spend time with really do shape who we are and who we will become.

So, on a serious note, there is a real value in surrounding yourself with people who you learn from and admire. For a long time I've worked to create an environment that nurtures my success. I moved into Project San Francisco to be completely immmersed in a positive environment. And if you're not doing this too... if you're still hanging with the other virgins. Get off the computer now and go make some cooler friends!

In fact, I can't help but think about the early days of the "PickUp Community". The stuff written about in the book The Game. Blind leading the blind? Hopefully now as the study of dating and pickup becomes more mainstream, it will become more saturated with cool guys who actually understand and appreciate women. That's a club I'll happily join.

As for the Cherry Boys... bring 'em to me. I'll get those virgins laid once and for all, and the Cherry Boy club will disappear forever!

Flirt Your Hearts Out!

Just another night on the job. This weekend's Art Of Attraction is kickin' ass, big time.

I love seeing the students on Friday night having a lot of fun, but just with the slightest hint of confusion. Then, by Saturday night, all the missing pieces have been filled in, and they're total rockstars. Transformation right before my eyes.

I gotta get going. We're not done yet!

PickUp 101 Strikes Again

After a month and a half with nothing to do but twidle my thumbs... I'm getting back in the trenchs with another Art Of Attraction Workshop. Three days to take 15 men on a tranformational journey to the most wildly attractive version of themselves.

We'll be hitting the streets of San Francisco and flirting women into a frenzy. Ladies, this may be your lucky weekend!

See you out there!

ps. only two days left until the unveiling of my newest hidden camera video. Feel the electricity in the air.
If you're in San Francisco, be there. Join Me On Sunday!

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You Naughty Seahorse!

"The sea creatures are promiscuous, flighty and more than a little bit gay... And unlike human rules of attraction, it was the members of the Hippocampus genus with the biggest bellies that attracted the most partners."


This Article in The Times (Britain) reported that in fact Seahorses like to party much more than we once thought. I've never partied with a Seahorse myself, but I always suspected they were free-love hippies. They just look so psychadelic and all.

In fact, the article said that Australian seahorses were the most promiscuous of all. hmmm... I'm talking to you Australia... Have you put that crazy love potion in your water supply again?

So it seems that Scientists find yet another example of the monogamy model breaking down. I wonder: Could it be that people just project onto animals what they wish were true for them? "Perhaps the naturalists who first reported monogamy in seahorses had observed it in one or two species and assumed it would be universal," say the scientists.

So, what does all this mean to simple folks like you and me? Well, for a start, watch your back for a seahorse trying to slip roofies in your drink. But, more practically, it's time we realize that sexuality is much more complex than people want to imagine.

I know monogamy seems like such a simple solution. You find a mate, and you stay with them for life. It's done and taken care of. But, perhaps nature didn't intend for things to be so simple. There's a lot of emotions and feelings involved in every relationship, but I think if there's one lesson to learn from the seahorses, they really just don't care what you think. They do what feels good to them. They're not trying to fight against their nature. Or, as the scientists say:

"They really are indiscriminate and shameless creatures."

Naughty Seahorse!

ps.
If you want to come meet me and watch a never-before-seen hidden camera video of me picking up a girl.
Join Me In San Francisco This Weekend

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I Was Staring At Her Boobs

I met a girl with Great Boobs! Like, so great I even had to capitalize “Great” and “Boobs”. (not the photo on the left, perv.)

We were out tonight filming with the hidden camera. Another action packed night of pickup. And, I met this real cutie live in surround sound digital. The report is below, but…

** For Those of You In San Francisco **
I’m going to show this vid at our next PickUp 101 Intro Seminar in SF.
February 4th. This video will never be released to the public, for various reasons. You won’t see this on youtube. You won’t see it on your crazy file sharing thingy.
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Enough of the hype… what went down?

Re-Invent Your Sexy Self

A while back, a friend threw me an article by Niel Strauss and said "check it out". I met Neil, author of "The Game," when he was out here for a book signing. And, of course, I've heard stories from Lance and my other housemates at Project San Francisco. So, naturally, I was interested in his writing.

Turns out he'd written a piece on Madonna for Rolling Stone. Now, it's a little known secret, but I love Madonna. In fact, I'm coming out of the closet about it right now! Madonna kicks ass. I've even got her song "Hung Up" as the ringtone on my phone!

She kicks ass for many reasons, but one of the many is that for over 20 years she has continued to reinvent herself. Madonna has never gotten stale, and never gotten boring.

Now, I know that article is a bit old now. I missed the boat on that one. But, I've been thinking about it still. I've been thinking about identity, and how we really define ourselves.

Have you ever met someone with real charisma? Real personality?

The Real Sean Newman

For the longest time now, I've suspected that Sean Newman wasn't who he really said he was. I mean, "Newman"? C'mon. Even "Sean" is hard enough to believe.

But, after taking a look around his blog: Make Girls Smile

I found the one piece of evidence I'd been looking for. It's true, and I knew it all along. The person we all know as "Sean Newman"... really goes by the name Kirk! And I have proof!!! ~

Zan Stays For The Weekend

What a weekend (for many reasons). Perhaps I'll get a chance to share all the adventures with you at some point. But for starters, Zan was kickin' back at our house over the weekend. His first time in San Francisco, he hit up Alcatraz, and Napa, and all the hot spots. And all I can really say about him is wow! This guy just has an aura.

Check out the video I put on youtube which really hit me as why I got into all this. This is why I do what I do. It's time for men to step up and take some responsibility.