Talking With Your Body

I'm supposed to give a talk later today to the Melbourne Lair. They asked me to talk about Body Language - it's the hot topic.

So, what is it about Body Language that seems so powerful, yet so strangly hard to get. Well, for a start, there's the obvious challenge of trying to write or talk about Body Language. It really must be seen and felt to be understood.

And, there's also the fact that Body Language rarely has direct and obvious results. (I've never heard a girl say to a guy "you're body language was just so awesome! I had to date you!") While, on the other hand, I have heard women say "There's just something about the way he walked into the room."

They notice. Women notice your body language. But, they don't know what or why. And, before I started working with our supergirls, I had never heard things like "well, when he moves his shoulders like that, he actually looks sexier."

But, it's true. Women are 100% in tune with your body language. What does your body say? What is it communicating? Is it dripping sexuality? or is it hiding and shrinking away? or is it pretending to be something that it's not?

Although it's a subtle and mysterious art. Everyone can improve. In our workshops, we see instant and dramatic improvement. And, when guys do make changes, all of a sudden there's "just something about them". And, they walk through the world in a new way.

Give A Compliment Today!

Here's a new mission for you. I just gave it to one of my students yesterday in The Art Of Rapport.

One Sincere Compliment Every Day.

It's that simple. All you have to do is appreciate the good things in your life, and when you see something you like... give it a little recognition.

Nice Sunglasses

Great Smile!

You're cute...

It's funny how difficult it is for guys to give a 100% sincere compliment. No bullshit, no need for approval, no need for anything in return.

And, I'm not talking hot girls, either. I don't care who you talk to. Do it to your sister, your boss, your best friend. Just take a second to appreciate something that makes you happy, and give a compliment!

City By The River

At first glance, Melbourne looked a lot like San Francisco. The skyline of downtown had about the same number of skyscrapers. People seemed just as busy.

But, actually, this is a town of almost 4 million people. I haven't really left the city center much, but Melbourne must really sprawl outward into the burbs. What makes this so cool? People everywhere!

Friendly people, and so many of them! Our first day of field work during the Art Of Rapport was a huge success. Women were in true abundance.

Anyone looking for a nice vacation, I highly recommend this town.

Deep Rapport

When's the last time you really opened up to somebody and bared your soul?

Working with guys this weekend in The Art Of Rapport, I'm once again reminded just how challenging it is for men to reveal their emotions. In fact, I'll just say it... it's a bitch. And what's worse is that even when we think we're getting good at it, there's still more to learn.

Let's face it, speaking freely with emotion is a woman's world these days.

It takes a certain strength to dig deep and reveal your vulnerability. But, that strength is what makes it so attractive. It's what women crave from us.

Next time you find yourself talking about an emotional subject (family, friends, life, loss, etc..). Stop and ask yourself if perhaps you could put a little more into it. Just a little more at first. And, with every little bit, we can all become just a little more real.

Tale Of Travels: Welcome To Melbourne

I just arrived in Melbourne after 36 hours of traveling on bus, airplane, and shuttles. But, just as luck would have it, a cute Japanese girl happened to be on my last shuttle into town. Yes, she was very cute. I was happy.

We talked on the bus, and then I invited her to join me for a cup of coffee before she left for the next town where she was staying. She agreed, so we dropped all our stuff off at my hotel room and then went for a drink.

I got a delicious iced coffee with a scoop of Vanilla gelato mixed dropped in. Yummm!

Then, we took some pictures and played around by the waterfront. She seemed very comfortable with my touch, and being close to me. Then, when I went to hold her hand, she kinda freaked, like it was so un-japanese. But, I just played along and made it a sort of game. Eventually, we were holding hands like boyfriend girlfriend.

Then, we walked to a park and sat in the shade (it's freekin' hot here). We rolled around in the grass and did some acro-yoga. Stretch it out.

Then, I brought her in close and went for a kiss. Again, very un-japanese. She wasn't into it at first, but I insisted on pulling her in close again.

Then, we had the most erotic, playful experience of a first kiss. I put my forehead to hers, then kissed her on the cheek. Then, she kissed me on my mine. Then we rubbed noses, and then foreheads, and kept dancing around each other with our lips almost touching, but never actually kissing. It was hot. A total dance of sexual tension. Then, to finish it off, I went in quick and snuck a kiss, and then pulled way back.

Ohhh... it was getting fun now, because she pounced on top of me and pinned me on my back in the grass. And from that point, I could stare up at her big bright eyes with the leaves of the trees behind her head, and the sun peaking through the leaves just a little. She looked so fuckin' beautiful in that moment. Like a little Japanese angel. And in my contentment with that moment, she leaned in and kissed me too.

I had to stop and tell her how beautiful she looked in that moment. Yeah, I wanted to take a photo or do a painting or something.

We went back to my hotel room and played around a little more before I sent her on her way. She's only in town for a couple days, so I may not see her again. Don't know.

No matter what, it was a great welcome to Australia. And, oh yeah... there were a bunch of way hotties out there walking the streets and catching my eye. This adventure isn't done yet.

Tale Of Cuddles: Washington D.C.

You never choose when a sexy fun woman will walk into your life.

Last night I was walking back to the hotel with my boys after a nice dinner in Georgetown. It'd been a long weekend teaching The Art Of Rapport, and I needed nothing more than a good night's sleep.

But, there they were. Two cuties walking down the sidewalk behind us. And, when we all stopped at the crosswalk, I had no choice but to flirt.

I was in a group of 4 guys - two in front of the girls, two behind. So, I decided to play off of the situation.

"Are you part of our group?" I asked, with my sly little smile.
"No."
"Am I part of your group?"
(They smile)
"No."
"Well then, I guess we're strangers. It's nice to meet you."
(smiles all around)

And, we were off. Banter, fun, laughter, good times. Still walking down the snow covered sidewalk. With the cold night wind blowing, we walked fast too.

I suggest the nearby bar - a block from our hotel, and we all agree to visit the local watering hole.

Time passes, adventures ensue, and eventually we end up back at the hotel and fall asleep cuddling (just nice, warm, enjoyable cuddling). A perfect companion for a weary traveler.

What was most amazing, however, was that I was actually on my way home to write a blog post about synchronicity - and meeting the right people at the right time. (post coming soon). But, there she was. Two blocks from my hotel, at the right place and the right time.

Sometimes, it's just magical

Call Your Mom!

I took a nice walk throuh Richmond, VA with my mom. We went and visited the grave of Edgar Allen Poe's Mom. I could imagine him walking around in a graveyard a hundred year ago paying respect to his mom.



My mom's still alive and I absolutely love her. In fact, I had a great time hanging out with her this week. She's helped me through a lot in life, and continues to be a great support for me today.

Of course, not all of us have great relationships with our moms. And, many of us didn't even have a choice about the matter.

But, we do have a choice about how we relate to the women in our life Now. In each and every relationship, we can create something completely new. We can be free from patterns of the past.

What kind of loving relationships do you want to create?

Valentine's Check

Did You Survive Valentine's Day?

Does Your Heart Still Look Like The Diagram On The Left?

I've been super super busy. Didn't even have free time to sit down and write a little message here.

Hey now... don't get jealous!

So, here's a quick update.

I took the Authentic Man Program over the last weekend. It changed my life. More on that later...

My Japanese girlfriend came to visit she's so cute. But, some creepy imposter did some identity theft on me and started sending her emails in my name. Very weird. No time to explain it all now...

As midnight struck and Valentine's Day came around, I found myself in my bed with two girls on each side and a couple on the other end of the bed. (all naked). Definitely there's more details there, but don't know if I'm gonna give you the juicy stuff...

Right now I'm in Richmond VA with my mom. I love my mom! Call your mom, damn it!

As you can see, there's plenty to write about, now I just need some time. I should get some time as I head off to Australia. We're doing another workshop out there... yes, more to come :)

Hope you all are having a good Valentines week as well!

-Daniel

The Key Is In Your Hand

"In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand."

- Jiddu Krishnamurti

Reality Check - Part One

When's the last time you really took a good look at your life and appreciated how far you've come?

It's been a long time? Well then, you're ready for a Reality Check!

During the last Art of Attraction, I was sitting up in front of the room, talking away like I always do. And, in the middle of my talk, it hit me. Look how far I've come! I go out there every weekend, and I talk to groups of guys as an Authority on women. We pack a room with 40 complete strangers, all waiting to hear me talk. And, I don't even think twice. Not a twinge of fear or anxiety.

What?! Let's take a step back for a second. In fact, let's go all the way back to my first concious attempt at public speaking. Thailand. 2003. One room. Seven Thai students. One observer watching my every move. - It was my first time teaching English.

Long before I got into pickup and meeting women, I knew that I had to change my ways. I knew that I had to step up and shatter my social fears.

Tale Of Connection: Sparkle Hat

Old Friends came crawling out of the woodwork last night, as I spent almost the whole night in conversation with people I randomly knew.

And, then as I was walking out the door and about to head home, I saw a cute Japanese girl with a sparkely hat doing sign language. I had to stop and investigate.

She taught me how to say "Beautiful" in sign language. (But, no she wasn't deaf). It all kept reminding me of the movie Babel (highly recommended).

Later on we were trading war stories, and I was telling her about my skateboarding days where I would fly downhill into cross traffic at over 20+ mph, just hoping that the cars would be timed just right.

She told me about riding a 2 person bicycle in Japan while wearing a school-girl miniskirt. And, she fell off the bike and not only was she bruised and scraped, but her skirt flew up and her panties were showing. Scary and sexy at the same time :)

There's something so great about sharing in near death stupidity.

We exchanged many warm hugs, and I was happy while talking with her. She's been living in the US for a few years, so she's just got the slightest hint of a Japanese accent. Very cute.

I invited her over for dinner next Tuesday, and that makes me happy too.

mmmmmm.... *sigh*

From Cold Approach To Reputation

I recently came across this question on the PickUp Lounge. It's a common question that I hear a lot. But something specific stood out to me this time:

"I was wondering if it was safe to make multiple cold approaches in an environment where you kind of belong as a member and where everybody will eventually get to know you to some degree?

I guess what I'm worried about is if I make several cold approaches and the words about my action get around the women members, I will probably be branded as a player and it may seriously damage my reputation."

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Look, here's the unavoidable truth: You will get a reputation no matter what.

The question then is, what kind of reputation do you want?

Prince's Rock Hard Guitar Scares The Country

"We respect other opinions, but it takes quite a leap of the imagination to make a controversy of his performance," spokesman Greg Aiello said. "It's a guitar."

Well, the superbowl came and went while I was out teaching Men to flirt like champions. (Shed a tear for me and my sorrows.) But, of course, in the midst of a great atheletic competition, the country asks the big question: How does all this relate to sex?

No titties popping out of dresses? What a disappointment! How am I gonna teach my children that sex is wrong and breasts are to be feared?!

Oh, I know! I'll make fun of Prince's Schlong! Yes, the artist known for such heart warming pieces as "Gett Off." What better example of why sex is a bad idea!

If you missed the halftime show, Prince's phallus was the site to behold as they projected a silhoutte of his guitar against a screen. The actual truth is that no one really cared. (boo hoo). But, in a world full of sexual repression the media will take what it can get.

Here's today's advice. If Prince's guitar scares you, come visit us out here in ol' San Francisco. - Where we actually believe that maybe just kinda sorta IT'S OK TO LIKE SEX!

In fact, I stand before you today, making the bold statement: I Like Janet Jackson's Breasts! (As for Prince's guitar... well... let's just say I enjoyed teaching my workshop over the weekend.)

Pop Your Cherry!

"The Japan Cherry Boys Association now claims a nationwide membership of 260, all of who have the stated aim of losing their virginity as quickly as possible. But what are they doing about achieving their goal?"


A PickUp friend and once student of mine lives in Tokyo and sent me this article from Japan. It seems too unimaginable to be true. But, then again, it is Japan.

Reading it, I almost spit milk out my nose when I read this bit:
"'First and foremost, we study. To make sure we have an anatomical background of women, we all draw pictures of female genitalia and critique them', Watanabe tells the women's weekly. 'We had one guy who just drew a straight line and said, 'I'm finished.' That's how little we all know. It's really pathetic.'"

My big question is how on earth a virgin man would ever think that hanging out with other virgins is going to help his pursuit? This article is a bizarre caricature of any kind of boy's club we'd have in America. But the honest truth is that the people we spend time with really do shape who we are and who we will become.

So, on a serious note, there is a real value in surrounding yourself with people who you learn from and admire. For a long time I've worked to create an environment that nurtures my success. I moved into Project San Francisco to be completely immmersed in a positive environment. And if you're not doing this too... if you're still hanging with the other virgins. Get off the computer now and go make some cooler friends!

In fact, I can't help but think about the early days of the "PickUp Community". The stuff written about in the book The Game. Blind leading the blind? Hopefully now as the study of dating and pickup becomes more mainstream, it will become more saturated with cool guys who actually understand and appreciate women. That's a club I'll happily join.

As for the Cherry Boys... bring 'em to me. I'll get those virgins laid once and for all, and the Cherry Boy club will disappear forever!

Flirt Your Hearts Out!

Just another night on the job. This weekend's Art Of Attraction is kickin' ass, big time.

I love seeing the students on Friday night having a lot of fun, but just with the slightest hint of confusion. Then, by Saturday night, all the missing pieces have been filled in, and they're total rockstars. Transformation right before my eyes.

I gotta get going. We're not done yet!

PickUp 101 Strikes Again

After a month and a half with nothing to do but twidle my thumbs... I'm getting back in the trenchs with another Art Of Attraction Workshop. Three days to take 15 men on a tranformational journey to the most wildly attractive version of themselves.

We'll be hitting the streets of San Francisco and flirting women into a frenzy. Ladies, this may be your lucky weekend!

See you out there!

ps. only two days left until the unveiling of my newest hidden camera video. Feel the electricity in the air.
If you're in San Francisco, be there. Join Me On Sunday!

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