Costumes For The Sexy Man

--- In ebss@yahoogroups.com, Westwind2 wrote:

" Hmmm. I was just invited to a very cute blonde's birthday party Saturday night. It's a costume party. I haven't done the costume thing in years. Any suggestions of what might truly befit a PUA for the occasion? Any suggestions appreciated... Thanks in advance"


Great question as my favorite holiday season approaches... Halloween! And every year I see the same thing. Girls get it. Guys don't. Girls dress sexy. Guys dress like idiots.

Here's the fundamental key that all women get:

Costume = excuse to dress sexy.

It works both ways. Men and women.

Now, really a costume is an excuse to dress any way you want. And, if you want to do star treck or war craft, be my guest. But for chris' sake everybody loves sex. Get into it!

The "theme" of the costume isn't really important. A girl could be sexy secretary, sexy accountant, sexy banana, or the more popular sexy school girl, sexy kitten, sexy devil, etc...

Guys don't care.

Same is true for guys. Whatever you want, make sure it makes you look sexy. Make sure it is flattering.

Almost any outfit can be transformed in this way. For example, you could be a sexy devil, or a cartoon devil, or a scary devil.

So, what makes a costume sexy?

First take a moment to think about what makes men sexy. It's definitely not big boobs and a nice ass. (although a nice ass won't hurt). It's not money and fame. It's confidence, strength, power, etc... the list goes on too long for this post, but you know the deal.

What expresses these qualities?


- The Sex Symbol

An easy way to get sexy is to tap into already popular sex symbols. This year, I'm inspired by Johnny Depp ala Pirates 2. He's a bit dirty, but you know the ladies still love him. Take any sex symbol through history, however. James Dean, Gene Simmons, Brad Pitt, Cassanova.

The other angle is to go generic and just hit some powerful male archetypes: rockstar, womanizer, athlete, millionaire, criminal, etc...

Last year, I did a mix. I was going for a pimp/rockstar, and people ended up telling me that I was Kid Rock. OK. (that demonstrates another rule. Whatever happens with the costume, go with it. Don't try to explain your outfit.)

I've given a few of the obvious examples, but really there's no limit. How about a schoolboy who smokes cigarettes in the bathroom? That's sexy. How about a egyptian high priest of sexual spirituality? That's sexy. How about free love Hippie (who showers)? That could be sexy. Get creative with it.


- Own it, don't mock it.

Whatever you dress as, do it for real. As with everything else, it's not so much what you do, but HOW you do it. Don't do the "cartoon" version of a costume. Don't do the cheap $12.99 walgreens version - Inexpensive is ok, but cheap isn't.

Now, cartoony isn't necessarily all bad, if cute. Perhaps you are going for the "innocent boy who doesn't want to be corrupted" look. It's ok to go cute if you're going 100% cute. Examples of this are dressing as a school boy, a baby, a cute animal, a virgin, a teddy bear, etc... You can play up the cute angle for sure and get a lot of girls wanting to "play"

But, my point here is not to do the caricature of a sexy man. I'll tell you what I mean with an example:

Last year, I told you I was dressed as a pimp/rockstar. I walked into Suite 181 only to find at least a dozen guys dressed as pimps. They looked like idiots. They bought crazy wierd neon pimp suits online and looked completely incongruent (http://www.frankelcostume.com/pimp-suits.php). I just had a nice fur coat, no shirt, and a big belt that said in rhinestones "PIMP". I was the real deal.

One of the first comments I got when I walked in to the club was from a hottie: "You look way too comfortable like that. Do you dress like this all the time?"

That's what I mean by owning it.

Cartoon viking helmet, fake muscles, joke costumes (you know the ones that have a big arrow pointing to your cock and some joke about "pull this lever" or some shit.) Don't do it.

Also, make sure the stuff fits and is flattering for your body. Trust me, girls are paying attention to this. They don't just buy any costume and throw it on. They're working their strong points.


- The Look

There are certain characteristics that you could add to any costume and make it sexier.

Eye liner or other make up: Give your costume that extra edge of mystery. Good for rockstars, pirates, naughty school boys, etc...

Naked Skin: Use this wisely. If you have a good body, you want to show it off. Be careful not to overdo it and look like the man-slut, but a little glimpse of skin will have the ladies going for feelsky's left and right.

Tactile fabrics: Yes, girls want to touch. Leather, suede, fur, feathers, velvet, etc... (Plastic is generally bad. Nobody likes to touch plastic.)

Toys: Handcuffs for the police officer, whips for the cowboy, etc.. etc... something that makes your outfit interactive and playful will surely hook women in.


Above in the end, be practical. If you're gonna get wasted and puke everywhere, don't wear the expensive stuff. If you're gonna go dancing, make sure you can dance in your outfit. If you're gonna go anywhere at all, make sure your costume isn't going to break or fall apart while your out. You may think it's cool because your costume is so awesome, but really it's just a bummer.

Remember, girls want to be with you, not your costume. The costume is a fun way for you to express yourself and bring her into your world. The costume isn't the goal in itself.

A guy who can rock an outrageous costume very confidently and comfortably will get a lot of attention. Ladies will see that you really get it. Have fun with it and make it your own. The best part of dressing up is that you can do ANYTHING. Take advantage.

-Daniel