Getting Girls at the Library - Sexy and Smart!

If you like smart ladies, I want to tell you how to master one of the toughest, but most fruitful environments for meeting nerdy girls.  For me, there's nothing quite like the downtown San Francisco Public Library. A three-story building full of brilliantly literate hotties. Well, usually there's only one or two hotties in the whole place, but I'm not trying to be greedy here. And... did I mention? They're probably smart.

So, whenever I find myself in the City Hall area, I stop by the Library, and this day was no different.

I walk in.

1st floor - nothing

2nd floor - hmm.... a couple of 18 yr olds. No, no... too young.

Going up the stairs to floor 3 - yes. There she is.


She's got kindof a big booty. But, I like it. Mmmmm... Japanese girl with big booty.
mmmm.... drool grrrllllll...

I approach her in a very quiet voice (shhhh...)

She looks kinda confused when I start talking with her, but she stays to find out more. We're standing in the middle of the library talking, and I'm trying not to raise my voice.

She was looking for a computer to check her email. After a couple minutes of vibing, I let her check her email while I disappeared and went to talk to a friend.

Then, after about 4 minutes, I re-open and talk some more. She's just finishing her email, so we keep chatting. She's some kind of art student - graphic design.

Now, we're having fun and I can see that she's done with her Library work. So, I take her outside to the grassy lawn in front of city hall.

We sit in the grass and talk about life and stuff. It's really nice. Relaxing and vibing for a good half hour or so just in the middle of the day. What could be more enjoyable.

But, you ask... is it always that easy?

Well, in fact someone did ask me how exactly I open girls in the Library, so I wrote out this quick guide: There are a few different scenarios that you may encounter:

Girl is quietly working away on internet or buried in books.

In this case, I would open with a very solid direct. In fact, I'd use what we teach in our the Art Of Rapport Workshop as "The Movie Moment". It's too much to explain all in one post here, but I'll give a basic idea...

I'll open very slowly and deliberately, and she'll notice me before I even say a word. It'll be magical, and it'll be like that moment that she's always dreamed of since she was a little girl. The words will be direct in nature, but the words aren't important. What's important is really capturing that energy.

Most likely everyone will see this and heads will turn. That's ok. That just builds the moment!

Girl is walking around trying to find something or someone.

In this case (like the story here), I would stop the girl the same as I would in any store or shopping area, or anything like that. Stop her and open. Usually, I'd open direct (like I did here). I like being direct. But, again, Direct only works if you really bring the energy to it. That's where most people fail with direct. They just ho-hum it. You must really feel it.

Or, I might open with something more playful. It could be anything, but it would be designed to make her smile. A great opener would be "I'd hate to be that guy who... hits on you in the library.... but.. um... yeah. I'm that guy."

Girl is asking librarian for help or checking out books

In this case, I would wait and then do it like above. A good time to break the 3 second rule and just kick back and wait. Build the anticipation and then open her when she's not distracted.

Girl is studying/socializing with friends.

In this case, you could actually do any of the above. But, you could also do it a little more like a bar or social setting. Flirt with all the girls and get them laughing. (This would work especially well if you were a college student and they were college students too. As college always has a more social vibe.) Be fun, but don't forget to show interest in the one you like, or else they'll very quickly start to wonder "what does this guy want?"

So there ya go.

But, remember... opening is only the tiniest fraction of what it takes to really be a master with women. And, I don't want you to just open in the Library. Stay and talk. Get to know her. Set up a date. If you like, invite her over to your place and make awesome nerdy love ;)

One of the best things about a Library is that it's a great environment to get into deep rapport and really have a great conversation with someone.