You may remember a while back, I put up a post about our new turntables.Well, I knew nothing about DJ-ing at the time. And, in just about 6 months, I'm now a professional DJ *pat on back*.
Yes, I got my first gig. I was nervous like a little school girl. The truth is that I actually don't know anything about DJing, I just like music a lot and I like playing it. I wasn't the best ever, but I had a lot of fun, and everyone seemed to like it. They were dancing and smiling and complimenting me. And, the woman who set it up asked me to do it again sometime. Sweet!
What was the coolest thing though is how I didn't even have to work at it to get a gig. In fact, I didn't even want to do it. But, it fell in my lap.When a friend of a friend asked for a DJ suggestion, it came around to me.
That's how the world goes around. Most jobs, most connections, in fact most relationships or girlfriends even (for the normal world outside the "pickup" community)... most connections are made through friends of friends. This is how humans work. We are social beings. The more social you are, the more money you will make, and the more sex you'll get. I am pretty sure that is a fact.
So, since we are talking about dating tips here, I'll make the connection more specific.
I got the job because I love playing music, and I have a large social network of people who know that about me. If you want girls, all you have to do is love flirting with them and have a large social network of people who know that about you. They'll think of you as the fun social guy who women love, and they'll invite you everywhere.
There are people all over struggling to meet cool women or get fun jobs, etc. Simultaneously, other people get women and money thrown at them so much that they have to turn it down. What's the difference? Well, one clear difference is the people in their life and the relationships they have with them. Not just the girls, but all the people in their life who WANT to hook them up. You can do it too. Start with what you have got and continue to grow your social network. Enjoy the whole process, because it is fun from start to finish.
3 comments:
Awesome post Daniel, I think its super cool your a DJ.
Excellent point about being social with lots of people WHO WANT YOU TO SUCCEED!
I wish I had those people in my life.
Daniel you bring up a fantastic point! Great post!
Networking is key to building a better life.
This is how life works. If you let people know your interests, or that you are open to a variety of new exciting experiences they will always think of you when something comes up that sort.
In my life I feel that I have worked very hard to build a full networking group and I'm constantly expanding it. Because of this, I have been able to experience so much more in life that I wouldn't have been able to experience otherwise.
I have found that people are always so happy to help you out or hook you up. This doesn't just relate to jobs or women.. it relates to EVERYTHING in life!
It's key to get out there and talk to people, find out about them and share about you!
Wish I could have been there for your first gig!
ps
you look like a kick-ass pirate with your beard!
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