I've always enjoyed taking a look at social dynamics from a tribal point of view. 6.6 Billion People on one planet. One really big tribe?
I walk into a bar. Who are these people? Who are they sitting in their little groups, drinking their spirits, claiming their territory?
Is it a tribal gathering at the local watering hole? In fact, it often seems much different.
I remember when I first stepped foot into a bar, it looked much different. It looked like one big tribe that I wasn't a part of. I saw it as one group of people, and I was outside of it. There were the tribal leaders who looked intimidating, the hot fertile women of the tribe (who also looked intimidating), and a certain culture of the tribe - which I didn't understand.
As I grew more comfortable and really began to look around, I saw it differently again. I began to see a meeting of the tribes. Each tribe stakes territory in one area of the bar. Sometimes a tribe will find out that they know someone from another tribe, and the two will merge together. Sometimes the leader of one tribe will fight the leader of another.
And, then there were the rebels. The ones who look beyond the tribal boundaries and would talk to anyone. Daring and bold, they sought out to merge the tribes (or maybe simply to steal women from the tribe of another)
But, I continued to grow, and I moved past even this. In fact, I ended up in much the same place as where I started. I began to see it once again as a single tribe.
It's my tribe. These are my people. These are all my people.
I walk into a bar and I see my fellow San Franciscans. I see people, doing people things and living people lives. And, it's not just San Francisco either, after traveling the world teaching workshops, I've begun to feel at home everywhere.
What approach anxiety exists when I'm talking to my tribe? What hesitation could possibly be there then?
Not everyone is nice to me, sure. Not everyone welcomes me into their conversation. But, these cases are rare and seem almost insignificant.
I don't really enjoy bars and clubs much. I never really have. I go there because that's where the people are. Going to bars and clubs is not a necessary step in your improvement. But, being social is. Diving into social situations and joining in the game will bring you growth beyond just your relationships with women.
So, next time you go to a social event. Ask yourself, how do you see these people? Who are they? Who are the people in your tribe?
I walk into a bar. Who are these people? Who are they sitting in their little groups, drinking their spirits, claiming their territory?
Is it a tribal gathering at the local watering hole? In fact, it often seems much different.
I remember when I first stepped foot into a bar, it looked much different. It looked like one big tribe that I wasn't a part of. I saw it as one group of people, and I was outside of it. There were the tribal leaders who looked intimidating, the hot fertile women of the tribe (who also looked intimidating), and a certain culture of the tribe - which I didn't understand.
As I grew more comfortable and really began to look around, I saw it differently again. I began to see a meeting of the tribes. Each tribe stakes territory in one area of the bar. Sometimes a tribe will find out that they know someone from another tribe, and the two will merge together. Sometimes the leader of one tribe will fight the leader of another.
And, then there were the rebels. The ones who look beyond the tribal boundaries and would talk to anyone. Daring and bold, they sought out to merge the tribes (or maybe simply to steal women from the tribe of another)
But, I continued to grow, and I moved past even this. In fact, I ended up in much the same place as where I started. I began to see it once again as a single tribe.
It's my tribe. These are my people. These are all my people.
I walk into a bar and I see my fellow San Franciscans. I see people, doing people things and living people lives. And, it's not just San Francisco either, after traveling the world teaching workshops, I've begun to feel at home everywhere.
What approach anxiety exists when I'm talking to my tribe? What hesitation could possibly be there then?
Not everyone is nice to me, sure. Not everyone welcomes me into their conversation. But, these cases are rare and seem almost insignificant.
I don't really enjoy bars and clubs much. I never really have. I go there because that's where the people are. Going to bars and clubs is not a necessary step in your improvement. But, being social is. Diving into social situations and joining in the game will bring you growth beyond just your relationships with women.
So, next time you go to a social event. Ask yourself, how do you see these people? Who are they? Who are the people in your tribe?
1 comment:
Its interesting you put it like that, because there is a caveman element to us. We are a mix of higher evolved intelligence, and animals. Before we outgrow our caveman tendencies, we have to embrace them. :)
Drew
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