I recently came across this question on the PickUp Lounge. It's a common question that I hear a lot. But something specific stood out to me this time:"I was wondering if it was safe to make multiple cold approaches in an environment where you kind of belong as a member and where everybody will eventually get to know you to some degree?
I guess what I'm worried about is if I make several cold approaches and the words about my action get around the women members, I will probably be branded as a player and it may seriously damage my reputation."
---
Look, here's the unavoidable truth: You will get a reputation no matter what.
The question then is, what kind of reputation do you want?
