Awesome Wingman Rules

Recently, a discussion was spurred on the local yahoo group about the wingman relationship.

Here's my tooo cents.

This topic has been discussed heaps already. So no need to re-write the bible. No need to overcomplicate either.

Priority #1 of wings - Have fun! The point of all this is to have fun, so don't get uptight about winging "correctly". Much better to do it "funly" That mean's don't kill the vibe with "shoulds" and "rules". Schools out for the summer. How about "awesome suggestions for wings"

Priority #2 - Help your friend get his hottie

Priority #3 - Get other hotties in the group.


Suggestions:
If you see your friend talking to some hotties: Go up and say "what's up". Be polite. Don't ignore your friend like you're some foaming at the mouth horndog lady chaser. Don't ignore the girls like you are too cool for school. Don't try to impress anyone, you're allready cool because you're already part of the group.

If you're buddy is doing well with the girls, you'll easily enter the conversation. If he isn't doing well, you probably came in too early or too late, but no worries, give him some space to bring the energy back up and then come back later. Or help him bring the energy up.

Listen to your buddy for directions. If he wants you to leave, he'll probably tell you something subtle like: "Hey, Bob wanted to talk to you over there." or maybe something simple like "Hey, give me a minute."

If he wants you to join, he'll pull you into the conversation. Use your intuition to figure out which girl he likes (this is usually very easy to determine based on kino, etc.) Then, game the other girls. If you make a mistake, don't worry, he'll correct you (this could be something simple like "No, that's my girl".) It's his job to direct the show, and if he is an indecisive weenie, then you can take over and do whatever you want. He may be interested in both girls and you're decisiveness will help him make up his mind.

Once formalities are taken care of, you should start a conversation with the every member of the group *except* the hottie that he likes. Let him get some alone time. This is much easier done soon after you enter rather than waiting and doing a cross-battle 4-way conversation (always a no-no - it's just plain awkward). That is, you don't want to be two guys talking to two girls. You want to be one guy talking to one girl and one guy talking to 1+ girls.

From this point, do what you like.

Note also: when not talking to girls, the main rule is - don't talk game. Better yet, don't even talk to your wing when you're not talking with girls. Just say "what's up" and then leave him to go
chase some hotties.

Don't overcomplicate this stuff. And take a look around at the naturals. You'll never see a natural getting anal about "rules" when out partying. There's no "job" to do. No. a guy goes out, has fun, brings a girl home. That's the way chimps do it, so can we.

A wing in need: Best thing a wing can do is sense when wingmanship is needed. It's not easy, but usually it's a situation where one girl likes your friend, but the other girl is pulling her away. When a wingman comes in at the right time, it feels like God himself is on your side. It feels like an angel sent down from heaven. - Hoping you all can take this advice and go make those magical moments happen.

Re-cap:
1. Go talk to girls.
2. When you see that your wing could use some help - go say "hi."
3. Let your friend get some alone time with his girl, and entertain everyone else in the group while he does.

Good Luck,

Daniel