Find Your Flow - Skyrocket Your Results!

What if learning skills with women could be easy and fun all the time? What if everyday your game improved in ways that you could hardly even imagine? What if every time you talked to a girl, you absolutely knew that you were doing better than you'd ever done before?

That's the way it should be, right? We all know that we deserve results and we deserve more satisfaction. So, the path to abundance should be an enjoyable one that simply and smoothly Flows.

Lately, one of my housemates is reading the book "Flow." I never have enough time to really read books for myself, but I really enjoy learning the material second hand. Almost everyday he'll read a little of the book and give me an update and his latest learnings. It's great to have friends like that in your life!

So, before I even went out today, I had a really good chat with my housemate about the book. And, I hit some great realizations about how and when my game improves and how it stagnates.

We all know what the flow state is. Those moments in life where time seems to stand still. Results come to you effortlessly and easily. And, you can actually feel that you're in exactly the right place at exactly the right time.

When we're in the flow state, everything works out better. We'll actually see hotter women. The women we talk to will be in better moods and more receptive to us. The women coming into our life will be more open to us, and they will come more often. We may not even know what we're doing to attract them. All we will know is that they are there. And, above all, it feels great!

The Old Dude's Got Game

If you haven't seen it, it's time to take a look around. The old guy with the fine young thing. Or maybe the older woman her young piece of meat. What does age matter, really?

Last night I went out on the town and ended up talking for over an hour with a woman 6 years older than me. She was cute, abs of steel, pretty face. I was all for it. Her friends were teasing her for talking to me (I look young for my age, so I guess they thouhgt it was more like 12 years difference). Fuck it. She didn't care. She told me herself: "age doesn't matter." And, of course, you know she's gonna be.. um... experienced in bed.

But, it's true. How old do you feel in your heart? How old do you act? Our bodies are one thing, but only that. There is much more to a person than his body. And, luckily for men, our bodies are even less important.

So, the night progressed, and eventually I met him. A "natural" if you will. A man who claims he could pickup any girl in the bar, and who prides himself on not wanting the sex. "It's all about playing the game. Not getting laid." For him, I believe it's true.

Are You Afraid Of This?

Have You Given The Dreaded "Creepy Touch?"

If you've even come close, you probably never want to do it again.


Well, I know I'm late on current events, but I saw this photo again recently and knew that I had to comment. This is perhaps the most publicized "creepy touch" in all of history.

Whatever you may think of George Bush, I think there is a lot that we can learn from him (wait, wait... hear me out.) With all of Bush's *cough* shortcomings... somehow he became President of the United States. Wow. 

Humility VS. Confidence

Personally, I always fell on the side of Humility. In fact, in the past, I could easily have been accused of being overly humble (or in other words, a "pussy").

And recently, I've actually been surprised to hear how girls think that I "think I'm the shit." Actually, there was one girl in Australia who was actually convinced that I was too arrogant for her. She gave me so much shit and even told me, "You're not as cool as you think you are."

But, what is going on here. Let's take a look.

Recently, I took a look at Donovan's Seduction Chronicles. He did a review for our new product: Physical Confidence. In the review, he refers to me as "underrated."

Of course, I was flattered, and I appreciated Donovan's kind sentiments.

While at the same time, it got me thinking. What does it mean to be "underrated?"

The way that I was raised by my parents, underrated was good. It mean that you undercharge and over-deliver. And that's supposed to be a good thing. I always was happy with the fact that I was really giving people the best value I could give.

But, then I started to realize how very many people there are in the world who overcharge and under-deliver. And, sadly enough... they are the ones making most of the money and getting most of the women. (I'd point out our president Bush as one example.)

So, finally I decided to take a look at all this. What was it that made people want to give them so much money? What was it that made women like them?

Well.. the answer is... Confidence!

What Would Oprah Do?

"For everyone of us that succeeds, it's because there's somebody there to show you the way out."

Oprah Winfrey - Net worth over $1 Billion.

Ok, you guys are gonna think I've gone super sissy on you now. Time for another one of my little secrets to be revealed: I love Oprah!

If you don't know why, you've probably never really given her a chance. And probably, because there is a scourge of crappy woman talk show hosts on TV. The View. Martha Stewart. Actually... they all suck. They talk about stuff that doesn't matter, they have annoying whiny voices, and they don't do anything useful with themselves. In fact, I'll just throw in the whole majority of mainstream television. I don't have a TV, and if you do, I recommend trashing it:

Most of the crap advice out there makes for worse relationships and often tries to turn men into women. Don't let Rosie O'Donnell cut your balls off - That's all I'm saying.


But, if you tune into Oprah, when she's not talking about beauty tips and Hollywood drama. She's actually got a message.

I remember about 5 years ago when she started something that she called "Lifestyle Makeovers." It was genius. She took a woman's natural desire for something fun and cool: a makeover. And, she turned that desire inward to make a woman really improve herself, and not just her looks. Wow. Revolutionary. In that way, she took something void of content and completely shallow (the makeover) and transformed it into something useful and real. And at the same time she transformed something spacey and weird (self-improvement) And she made it fun.

So what would Oprah do, if she was a hopelessly lonely and frustrated man wanting the cute warm companionship of a woman? She'd sure as hell get off her ass and do something about it.

When you're looking for advice in the world, don't limit yourself. There's no one place to find all your answers in life, but if you find your own heros and learn what you can from them you'll find your path in life opening up before you. Your life will be filled with more purpose and inspiration. Never be too arrogant that you lose track of the positive influences in your life.

A Healthy Fresh Start

I Quit Smoking!

... And I'm starting fresh. During the prototype Art Of Wealth And Abundance, one of the kick-ass activities we did was a vision board:
- Go out, buy some magazines with images representing what you want. Go crazy and buy whatever catches your eye. Then, get a poster board, glue stick and scissors.

- Take it all home and let your inner child delight.

I put together a vision board today to represent my current goals. A health fresh start. After allowing myself to be consumed with stress over the last few months, I neglected my health and started smoking regularly. I realized it was time for a change. Some people didn't even know that I smoked. I wasn't big on it. More on-and-off. But, now it's official. If you see me smoking, slap me!

But, you wont see me smoking. I'm putting a major priority on my health for the next few months. Not just physical, but mental. Keep my mind at peace, and my body feeling good.

And, it probably doesn't need to be said, but the women will love me for it! Women love a guy who has his attention on anything meaningful. No matter what it is. But, a guy who is in good physical shape means lots of good things... (better sex, just for a start).

Spring is coming, and as we all pull out of the dark introspective times of winter there's nothing better than a little spring cleaning and a fresh start.

One Taste Of The Devine (Video)

Here's the latest video from our Project San Francisco Meetings With Masters series. I was in Australia, so I missed it. But, as soon as I got home, I watched the tapes and it was very cool. These women tell it like it is.

I think a lot of the impact was lost in the tapes, as the best thing these women would do is just be totally blunt (and almost bitchy) and call guys out on their bullshit.

I chose this clip because it was one of the few clips where they were speaking normal talk instead of with their own lingo. Personally, I love words and I love creative use of language, but I also like easy smooth natural communication.

Anyway, they give some blunt advice here about the woman's perspective. In fact, it's advice that we've all heard before, but it's always nice to hear it coming from a woman.

The first part is about persistence. The value of this can't be denied. Women love it when you don't give up.

The second part is about how women like a guy who has other women in his life. So start here and now with whatever woman you talk to next. And, build from there.

Enjoy the clip

Back To San Francisco

I'm a city boy at heart. I love walking the streets of San Francisco and just taking it all in. The concrete, the cars, the people. There's always something going on.

In fact, SF always seems so small when I come back home. It's a little town, but a lot to do. Really, there's nothing like it on the planet. I moved here to be closer to a community of like-minded individuals. Little did I know, I'd be helping create that community. Living at Project San Francisco, hanging out with the PickUp 101 crew... I really feel like I'm part of something awesome.

Our environment affects us in so many ways. If you don't walk out of your front door and smile because you love where you live... then maybe it's time to move. Everyday I leave my house, I see that Trans-America building and I feel good!

Talking With Your Body

I'm supposed to give a talk later today to the Melbourne Lair. They asked me to talk about Body Language - it's the hot topic.

So, what is it about Body Language that seems so powerful, yet so strangly hard to get. Well, for a start, there's the obvious challenge of trying to write or talk about Body Language. It really must be seen and felt to be understood.

And, there's also the fact that Body Language rarely has direct and obvious results. (I've never heard a girl say to a guy "you're body language was just so awesome! I had to date you!") While, on the other hand, I have heard women say "There's just something about the way he walked into the room."

They notice. Women notice your body language. But, they don't know what or why. And, before I started working with our supergirls, I had never heard things like "well, when he moves his shoulders like that, he actually looks sexier."

But, it's true. Women are 100% in tune with your body language. What does your body say? What is it communicating? Is it dripping sexuality? or is it hiding and shrinking away? or is it pretending to be something that it's not?

Although it's a subtle and mysterious art. Everyone can improve. In our workshops, we see instant and dramatic improvement. And, when guys do make changes, all of a sudden there's "just something about them". And, they walk through the world in a new way.

Give A Compliment Today!

Here's a new mission for you. I just gave it to one of my students yesterday in The Art Of Rapport.

One Sincere Compliment Every Day.

It's that simple. All you have to do is appreciate the good things in your life, and when you see something you like... give it a little recognition.

Nice Sunglasses

Great Smile!

You're cute...

It's funny how difficult it is for guys to give a 100% sincere compliment. No bullshit, no need for approval, no need for anything in return.

And, I'm not talking hot girls, either. I don't care who you talk to. Do it to your sister, your boss, your best friend. Just take a second to appreciate something that makes you happy, and give a compliment!

City By The River

At first glance, Melbourne looked a lot like San Francisco. The skyline of downtown had about the same number of skyscrapers. People seemed just as busy.

But, actually, this is a town of almost 4 million people. I haven't really left the city center much, but Melbourne must really sprawl outward into the burbs. What makes this so cool? People everywhere!

Friendly people, and so many of them! Our first day of field work during the Art Of Rapport was a huge success. Women were in true abundance.

Anyone looking for a nice vacation, I highly recommend this town.

Deep Rapport

When's the last time you really opened up to somebody and bared your soul?

Working with guys this weekend in The Art Of Rapport, I'm once again reminded just how challenging it is for men to reveal their emotions. In fact, I'll just say it... it's a bitch. And what's worse is that even when we think we're getting good at it, there's still more to learn.

Let's face it, speaking freely with emotion is a woman's world these days.

It takes a certain strength to dig deep and reveal your vulnerability. But, that strength is what makes it so attractive. It's what women crave from us.

Next time you find yourself talking about an emotional subject (family, friends, life, loss, etc..). Stop and ask yourself if perhaps you could put a little more into it. Just a little more at first. And, with every little bit, we can all become just a little more real.

Tale Of Travels: Welcome To Melbourne

I just arrived in Melbourne after 36 hours of traveling on bus, airplane, and shuttles. But, just as luck would have it, a cute Japanese girl happened to be on my last shuttle into town. Yes, she was very cute. I was happy.

We talked on the bus, and then I invited her to join me for a cup of coffee before she left for the next town where she was staying. She agreed, so we dropped all our stuff off at my hotel room and then went for a drink.

I got a delicious iced coffee with a scoop of Vanilla gelato mixed dropped in. Yummm!

Then, we took some pictures and played around by the waterfront. She seemed very comfortable with my touch, and being close to me. Then, when I went to hold her hand, she kinda freaked, like it was so un-japanese. But, I just played along and made it a sort of game. Eventually, we were holding hands like boyfriend girlfriend.

Then, we walked to a park and sat in the shade (it's freekin' hot here). We rolled around in the grass and did some acro-yoga. Stretch it out.

Then, I brought her in close and went for a kiss. Again, very un-japanese. She wasn't into it at first, but I insisted on pulling her in close again.

Then, we had the most erotic, playful experience of a first kiss. I put my forehead to hers, then kissed her on the cheek. Then, she kissed me on my mine. Then we rubbed noses, and then foreheads, and kept dancing around each other with our lips almost touching, but never actually kissing. It was hot. A total dance of sexual tension. Then, to finish it off, I went in quick and snuck a kiss, and then pulled way back.

Ohhh... it was getting fun now, because she pounced on top of me and pinned me on my back in the grass. And from that point, I could stare up at her big bright eyes with the leaves of the trees behind her head, and the sun peaking through the leaves just a little. She looked so fuckin' beautiful in that moment. Like a little Japanese angel. And in my contentment with that moment, she leaned in and kissed me too.

I had to stop and tell her how beautiful she looked in that moment. Yeah, I wanted to take a photo or do a painting or something.

We went back to my hotel room and played around a little more before I sent her on her way. She's only in town for a couple days, so I may not see her again. Don't know.

No matter what, it was a great welcome to Australia. And, oh yeah... there were a bunch of way hotties out there walking the streets and catching my eye. This adventure isn't done yet.

Tale Of Cuddles: Washington D.C.

You never choose when a sexy fun woman will walk into your life.

Last night I was walking back to the hotel with my boys after a nice dinner in Georgetown. It'd been a long weekend teaching The Art Of Rapport, and I needed nothing more than a good night's sleep.

But, there they were. Two cuties walking down the sidewalk behind us. And, when we all stopped at the crosswalk, I had no choice but to flirt.

I was in a group of 4 guys - two in front of the girls, two behind. So, I decided to play off of the situation.

"Are you part of our group?" I asked, with my sly little smile.
"No."
"Am I part of your group?"
(They smile)
"No."
"Well then, I guess we're strangers. It's nice to meet you."
(smiles all around)

And, we were off. Banter, fun, laughter, good times. Still walking down the snow covered sidewalk. With the cold night wind blowing, we walked fast too.

I suggest the nearby bar - a block from our hotel, and we all agree to visit the local watering hole.

Time passes, adventures ensue, and eventually we end up back at the hotel and fall asleep cuddling (just nice, warm, enjoyable cuddling). A perfect companion for a weary traveler.

What was most amazing, however, was that I was actually on my way home to write a blog post about synchronicity - and meeting the right people at the right time. (post coming soon). But, there she was. Two blocks from my hotel, at the right place and the right time.

Sometimes, it's just magical

Call Your Mom!

I took a nice walk throuh Richmond, VA with my mom. We went and visited the grave of Edgar Allen Poe's Mom. I could imagine him walking around in a graveyard a hundred year ago paying respect to his mom.



My mom's still alive and I absolutely love her. In fact, I had a great time hanging out with her this week. She's helped me through a lot in life, and continues to be a great support for me today.

Of course, not all of us have great relationships with our moms. And, many of us didn't even have a choice about the matter.

But, we do have a choice about how we relate to the women in our life Now. In each and every relationship, we can create something completely new. We can be free from patterns of the past.

What kind of loving relationships do you want to create?

Valentine's Check

Did You Survive Valentine's Day?

Does Your Heart Still Look Like The Diagram On The Left?

I've been super super busy. Didn't even have free time to sit down and write a little message here.

Hey now... don't get jealous!

So, here's a quick update.

I took the Authentic Man Program over the last weekend. It changed my life. More on that later...

My Japanese girlfriend came to visit she's so cute. But, some creepy imposter did some identity theft on me and started sending her emails in my name. Very weird. No time to explain it all now...

As midnight struck and Valentine's Day came around, I found myself in my bed with two girls on each side and a couple on the other end of the bed. (all naked). Definitely there's more details there, but don't know if I'm gonna give you the juicy stuff...

Right now I'm in Richmond VA with my mom. I love my mom! Call your mom, damn it!

As you can see, there's plenty to write about, now I just need some time. I should get some time as I head off to Australia. We're doing another workshop out there... yes, more to come :)

Hope you all are having a good Valentines week as well!

-Daniel

The Key Is In Your Hand

"In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand."

- Jiddu Krishnamurti

Reality Check - Part One

When's the last time you really took a good look at your life and appreciated how far you've come?

It's been a long time? Well then, you're ready for a Reality Check!

During the last Art of Attraction, I was sitting up in front of the room, talking away like I always do. And, in the middle of my talk, it hit me. Look how far I've come! I go out there every weekend, and I talk to groups of guys as an Authority on women. We pack a room with 40 complete strangers, all waiting to hear me talk. And, I don't even think twice. Not a twinge of fear or anxiety.

What?! Let's take a step back for a second. In fact, let's go all the way back to my first concious attempt at public speaking. Thailand. 2003. One room. Seven Thai students. One observer watching my every move. - It was my first time teaching English.

Long before I got into pickup and meeting women, I knew that I had to change my ways. I knew that I had to step up and shatter my social fears.

Tale Of Connection: Sparkle Hat

Old Friends came crawling out of the woodwork last night, as I spent almost the whole night in conversation with people I randomly knew.

And, then as I was walking out the door and about to head home, I saw a cute Japanese girl with a sparkely hat doing sign language. I had to stop and investigate.

She taught me how to say "Beautiful" in sign language. (But, no she wasn't deaf). It all kept reminding me of the movie Babel (highly recommended).

Later on we were trading war stories, and I was telling her about my skateboarding days where I would fly downhill into cross traffic at over 20+ mph, just hoping that the cars would be timed just right.

She told me about riding a 2 person bicycle in Japan while wearing a school-girl miniskirt. And, she fell off the bike and not only was she bruised and scraped, but her skirt flew up and her panties were showing. Scary and sexy at the same time :)

There's something so great about sharing in near death stupidity.

We exchanged many warm hugs, and I was happy while talking with her. She's been living in the US for a few years, so she's just got the slightest hint of a Japanese accent. Very cute.

I invited her over for dinner next Tuesday, and that makes me happy too.

mmmmmm.... *sigh*

From Cold Approach To Reputation

I recently came across this question on the PickUp Lounge. It's a common question that I hear a lot. But something specific stood out to me this time:

"I was wondering if it was safe to make multiple cold approaches in an environment where you kind of belong as a member and where everybody will eventually get to know you to some degree?

I guess what I'm worried about is if I make several cold approaches and the words about my action get around the women members, I will probably be branded as a player and it may seriously damage my reputation."

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Look, here's the unavoidable truth: You will get a reputation no matter what.

The question then is, what kind of reputation do you want?